caryn

A frustrating truism: writing that a woman has big breasts is a compliment, but writing that a woman is heavy through the hips and thighs, or that she has a big bottom, is calling her fat, regardless of the actual proportion.

I find women who are small-breasted or flat-chested, who are heavy through the hips and thighs, very provocative. There are actually quite a few young women on the SG site who have this shape, and none of them could be called fat even remotely.

I don't mean a high, arched butt , either---I like the hips low-slung, and wide, with the bottom curving into the thighs. I **like** saddle bags. I just like the shape, narrow through the chest with a nice flare at the hips and legs.

This is one of the several great aspects of SG---the young women and their photographers rarely work to hide their body and its curves. If you look through most mainstream fashion or porn photography, however, you will quickly discover that there exists a whole bag of tricks for photographers and magazine publishers (and marketing persons) to use to erase those curves and hollows.

So how does one write a comment for a young women's photo set that conveys the beauty of her shape without connoting that she is fat (or heavy, or big, or etc...), or, conversely, that she is too skinny (the androgyny look is blazing hot, too).

And to be perfectly clear, we do it to ourselves---it hasn't all that much (if anything) to do with how men (or even our own female partners) see us.