It’s not really a secret it’s something I have always heard over the years.
“The key to not being afraid is acting like you’re not afraid” this simple mantra, quote or sentence, whatever you want to call it, has been my guiding light over time. It speaks volumes to me.
Throughout my school years and even some in college I was constantly harassed, picked on, or bullied in some shape or form. Like many of us. I was called ugly, worthless, slutty on the daily. It would eat me up inside, and I remember hearing this quote and I told myself I couldn’t let anyone get to me anymore, no matter what I did someone would judge me.
I started dressing how I wanted and that made me feel comfortable and confident, I started saying what was on my mind no matter to who it was because when I was afraid I wouldn’t be heard and I would get so depressed. The less I acted Afraid I less I became afraid of people’s opinions, certain outfits, etc.
my confidence stems from my fears, I don’t want to be put back in a corner anymore, I don’t want to feel like no one or nothing, so stepping out to the spotlight is much easier then feeding into my fears.
It took a very long time for me to build the confidence I have now and sometimes I still need to work on it but that’s the beauty of it! No one can say anything to me that I haven’t heard before and I take it with a grain of salt now.
When I am lacking what I can control I simply remind myself “you can’t put baby in a corner” type of shit and i get ready and remind myself I’m a gem. 🖤
