capnbob

I love foreplay. I love seduction and passion. Without that, sex is basically mutual masturbation as far as I'm concerned, just a physical stimulation without any mental or emotional context to give it meaning. I like giving it just as much as receiving it. I've noticed that my girlfriend (whom I love with and love very much) doesn't really seem very interested in reciprocating. She seems to get bored or distracted with it very easily, and tends to just get down to business and expects me to get off very quickly from repetitive mechanical motions.

So, recently she complained that she feels like she doesn't satisfy me because I don't always get off from sex with her. I told her that I love her and I love having sex with her, but it helps a lot to have some foreplay to get me in the right mindset first. She just informed me that she's not really interested in foreplay and then joked about how I must be the girl in the relationship. And that's all she had to say on the matter.

I feel very depressed now. I like so many things about her and I want to stay with her, but that means I have to get used to not ever having the part I like best about sex again if she can't develop an interest in it for my sake. I don't want to go behind her back and start things with other girls either. Sooo... what do I do here?

Bleh. Maybe I just need to talk to her more and make her understand how let down I feel without making her totally depressed, maybe she can be convinced to develop a taste for foreplay after all and I just don't know the words for it yet.