I warn you all you this is about to get very ranty very quick. But the second disclaimer is I love my gf with all of my heart, and this rant doesn't change that.
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I am sick and tired of being the primary bread winner. I am tired of working 40 hours a week and not having furniture, not having the new games I want, not having the DVDs I want, not being able to buy the books I want. I am tried of wish I could go see a movie, and trying to figure out what it would take to go see it, and how many weeks I need to wait to see it.
And this is not because my job doesn't pay well. It pays quite well I have a co-worker who isn't make much more then me who just invested in a huge plasma TV, and has the PS3 and the Xbox360. And he is living on his own with his GF.
But here is the issue for me. My GF works in theatre. She has a day job that pays her almost enough to live on and then she supplements her income with theatre. (Yea I know theatre isn't a big paying industry on a small level) But she is moving up in the theatre world. She has been getting the jobs that pay her what she is worth. But then she took another small budget theatre job. And now she is complaining about the job and not having enough money to pay bills.
And I am gonna over draft to cover my 75% of the rent. Plus they just raised my rent and I am in no condition to even think about moving right now. Right now I am just way tripped up about money. My job has fucked up my pay check for two pay cycles in a row. First check they left of the $1000 bonus, and short changed me 8 hours. (My boss didn't want to let me use my vacation day as a sick day, then i had to remind him that he combined sick and vacation days as a way to get around the increase in the number of sick days allowed in the city of San Francisco) but by the time that was settled it was too late to get it on that check. So my current check rolls around and I am expecting my bonus plus my extra 8 hours. And neither showed up. My boss forgot again. And I know it's not deliberate, but it just pisses me off and now I will get it for sure on my next check.
And to top it all off they raised my fucking rent for the 4th year in a row. I moved it my rent was 1070 a month. After a year it 1107, and then it was 1150, and now they are raising it 1225, They wanted to raise it to 1254 a month and I called them up and negotiated my rent in crease from 9% to 6% but still this is fucking ridiculous. Plus I am paying $45 a month for parking (company car I used a few times every couple of weeks, but don't have to pay insurance or up keep on) and another $25 for a storage space.
But now my GF is looking into doing theatre on a cruise ship and getting better pay and the experience that will allow her to break into large scale productions with a high level of technology and experience with a bigger show. but that means she will be away for anywhere from 4-8 months at a time. Now I can get by on my own but that is just gonna be rough to handle.
And she warned me all about this when I met her five years ago. She tried to scare me away telling me she wasn't making a lot of money, and that her schdule will away be strange and that she wanted to do touring shows. But after having a long bad week I am just needing to get this off my chest. And this is the one safe place to post it that she won't see it. Not that I don't want her to read it, I want to talk to her about it, but I can't do when I am stressed and this helps me get all the ideas out and in the open with myself and allows me to see what I am working with.
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Thanks for listening/reading.
-Chris
<Rant>
I am sick and tired of being the primary bread winner. I am tired of working 40 hours a week and not having furniture, not having the new games I want, not having the DVDs I want, not being able to buy the books I want. I am tried of wish I could go see a movie, and trying to figure out what it would take to go see it, and how many weeks I need to wait to see it.
And this is not because my job doesn't pay well. It pays quite well I have a co-worker who isn't make much more then me who just invested in a huge plasma TV, and has the PS3 and the Xbox360. And he is living on his own with his GF.
But here is the issue for me. My GF works in theatre. She has a day job that pays her almost enough to live on and then she supplements her income with theatre. (Yea I know theatre isn't a big paying industry on a small level) But she is moving up in the theatre world. She has been getting the jobs that pay her what she is worth. But then she took another small budget theatre job. And now she is complaining about the job and not having enough money to pay bills.
And I am gonna over draft to cover my 75% of the rent. Plus they just raised my rent and I am in no condition to even think about moving right now. Right now I am just way tripped up about money. My job has fucked up my pay check for two pay cycles in a row. First check they left of the $1000 bonus, and short changed me 8 hours. (My boss didn't want to let me use my vacation day as a sick day, then i had to remind him that he combined sick and vacation days as a way to get around the increase in the number of sick days allowed in the city of San Francisco) but by the time that was settled it was too late to get it on that check. So my current check rolls around and I am expecting my bonus plus my extra 8 hours. And neither showed up. My boss forgot again. And I know it's not deliberate, but it just pisses me off and now I will get it for sure on my next check.
And to top it all off they raised my fucking rent for the 4th year in a row. I moved it my rent was 1070 a month. After a year it 1107, and then it was 1150, and now they are raising it 1225, They wanted to raise it to 1254 a month and I called them up and negotiated my rent in crease from 9% to 6% but still this is fucking ridiculous. Plus I am paying $45 a month for parking (company car I used a few times every couple of weeks, but don't have to pay insurance or up keep on) and another $25 for a storage space.
But now my GF is looking into doing theatre on a cruise ship and getting better pay and the experience that will allow her to break into large scale productions with a high level of technology and experience with a bigger show. but that means she will be away for anywhere from 4-8 months at a time. Now I can get by on my own but that is just gonna be rough to handle.
And she warned me all about this when I met her five years ago. She tried to scare me away telling me she wasn't making a lot of money, and that her schdule will away be strange and that she wanted to do touring shows. But after having a long bad week I am just needing to get this off my chest. And this is the one safe place to post it that she won't see it. Not that I don't want her to read it, I want to talk to her about it, but I can't do when I am stressed and this helps me get all the ideas out and in the open with myself and allows me to see what I am working with.
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Thanks for listening/reading.
-Chris
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I would feel frustrated spending more on things than my partner, and I would feel guilty if they spent more than me.
I don't know what to suggest, but as always, I'm rooting for you. good luck.