I've said it before and I'll say it again, girls who date guys with the intention of, or even the thought that they can change them, are stupid and are just setting themselves up for failure. It's true... and I think I may be doing exactly that right now! What was I fucking thinking?!? A person should look for everything they want in a significant other to already be there, not as something that could possibly, maybe, someday, perhaps develop into one of their qualities.
There are several things that I look for in a long-term companion, and I want to get these down for my own personal reference so I never stray from my true feelings on this subject.
I want...
*Someone whose very existance sets my whole world on fire -- And I want to make you come alive when I'm on your mind.
*Someone who is respectful of me and the decisions I make, regardless of whether or not they agree -- I haven't lived with my parents for quite some time and I'm not looking for new ones.
*Someone with a genuine interest in my overall happiness -- I love to laugh and I want you to be a part of it.
*Someone with similar interests as me -- Don't make me fly solo when I want to go out to the club / the bar / the show / the casino.
*Someone who also has their own interest and doesn't feel that they need to keep tabs on my every move -- I'm a big girl and I can take care of myself.
*Someone who trusts me not to lie to them or break their heart -- I promise I can handle going out with my friends and being a good girl, so don't try to call "shenanigans" every time I don't include you.
*Someone who is trustworthy and faithful -- You can look, but if you are ever caught with your hand in the cookie jar, I will be fucking devistated, so just don't fucking do it!
*Someone who is reliable -- Do what you say you're going to do when you say you are going to do it... and show the fuck up when you say you are going to. Empty promises will give you an empty bed.
*Someone with an active imagination, and a healthy sex drive -- We can work on your sexual prowess as long as you have the libido, the ability to listen to what I have to say on the subject, and a little perserverence.
*Someone adventurous -- Try new things with me and don't be afraid to go to the next level... whatever that may be at the time.
*Someonewho is respectufl of themselves and other people -- You can never share real love until you love yourself.
*Someone who will help me to make healthy decisions while still allowing me to be myself and do what I want to do -- I can take advice but you can take your ultimatums and demands and shove them up your ass.
*Someone who recognizes when a situation is bad but can still make the best of the scenario -- Passion for life with a hint of cynicism is perfect for me.
*Someone who likes my friends -- Don't judge them, trust my ability to pick the people I have around me... I picked you and I refuse to choose between you and them.
*Someone who will tell me that I'm beautiful and actually believe it -- I need to hear it from time to time or my head will fucking explode.
*Someone who will appreciate me for who I am and the things that I do for them -- It's good to know that your good deeds, love and affection aren't going unnoticed, so let me know.
*Someone who can understand that sometimes I just need a hug -- You don't have to have all the answeres; sometimes I just need you to be there to get me through things.
*Someone who smiles at me when they see me -- (And smile like you mean it.)
*Someone who never makes me question their integrity and never makes me suspect a hidden agenda -- Remember, actions speak louder than words.
*Someone who can love me wholely and unconditionally -- Be there for me and I promise you, I'll be there for you 100%, any day, any time, anything you need.
Is any of that too much to ask??
Anyway... that's all, I suppose.
..oOo..
There are several things that I look for in a long-term companion, and I want to get these down for my own personal reference so I never stray from my true feelings on this subject.
I want...
*Someone whose very existance sets my whole world on fire -- And I want to make you come alive when I'm on your mind.
*Someone who is respectful of me and the decisions I make, regardless of whether or not they agree -- I haven't lived with my parents for quite some time and I'm not looking for new ones.
*Someone with a genuine interest in my overall happiness -- I love to laugh and I want you to be a part of it.
*Someone with similar interests as me -- Don't make me fly solo when I want to go out to the club / the bar / the show / the casino.
*Someone who also has their own interest and doesn't feel that they need to keep tabs on my every move -- I'm a big girl and I can take care of myself.
*Someone who trusts me not to lie to them or break their heart -- I promise I can handle going out with my friends and being a good girl, so don't try to call "shenanigans" every time I don't include you.
*Someone who is trustworthy and faithful -- You can look, but if you are ever caught with your hand in the cookie jar, I will be fucking devistated, so just don't fucking do it!
*Someone who is reliable -- Do what you say you're going to do when you say you are going to do it... and show the fuck up when you say you are going to. Empty promises will give you an empty bed.
*Someone with an active imagination, and a healthy sex drive -- We can work on your sexual prowess as long as you have the libido, the ability to listen to what I have to say on the subject, and a little perserverence.
*Someone adventurous -- Try new things with me and don't be afraid to go to the next level... whatever that may be at the time.
*Someonewho is respectufl of themselves and other people -- You can never share real love until you love yourself.
*Someone who will help me to make healthy decisions while still allowing me to be myself and do what I want to do -- I can take advice but you can take your ultimatums and demands and shove them up your ass.
*Someone who recognizes when a situation is bad but can still make the best of the scenario -- Passion for life with a hint of cynicism is perfect for me.
*Someone who likes my friends -- Don't judge them, trust my ability to pick the people I have around me... I picked you and I refuse to choose between you and them.
*Someone who will tell me that I'm beautiful and actually believe it -- I need to hear it from time to time or my head will fucking explode.
*Someone who will appreciate me for who I am and the things that I do for them -- It's good to know that your good deeds, love and affection aren't going unnoticed, so let me know.
*Someone who can understand that sometimes I just need a hug -- You don't have to have all the answeres; sometimes I just need you to be there to get me through things.
*Someone who smiles at me when they see me -- (And smile like you mean it.)
*Someone who never makes me question their integrity and never makes me suspect a hidden agenda -- Remember, actions speak louder than words.
*Someone who can love me wholely and unconditionally -- Be there for me and I promise you, I'll be there for you 100%, any day, any time, anything you need.
Is any of that too much to ask??
Anyway... that's all, I suppose.
..oOo..
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veritas
oh, and yeah, you can't change guys....