Men have to deal with a lot of bullshit. Women have to deal with that same bullshit plus anything you add on top of it. Imagine a graphic where you are standing on your S.O.'s shoulders and men are tossing rocks into a backpack that you're wearing. Yeah it sucks having to carry all that weight but your S.O. has to carry all that along with your sorry ass because you won't get off her back. Get the idea yet?
As men we have an out when it comes to abuse. Our contemporaries are more than willing to cut us some slack as long we jump on the same anti-woman train that they are on. Women don't get that option which means the abuse has to stop with you. Believe me, I know how tempting it is to just give in to the hate train but you have to be the bigger person. As a gentleman you owe it not just to others but to yourself as well. I think it was Martin Luther King Jr. who said that hate can not drive out hate, only love can do that. As a gentleman is your duty to spread the love and positivity as much as possible. When men abuse you stand up for yourself, don't turn around and then abuse the woman in your life. I am completely, utterly convinced that jealousy is a communicable disease. You get it from your peers who are abusing the shit out of you because they want you all to themselves. Projection, party of two. Your table is waiting.
Anger is an easy emotion to feel but love is a lot tougher. Anger pushes people away and can ironically, make us feel safer. Love, however, invites people in to that part of ourselves that is the most vulnerable. See my blog about the Black Widow Concept for an explanation for why this can be so scary. Despite the fear though love is probably the feeling that makes us feel the best which is why it's so important to help others feel that love you have to give. And none of this "no homo" bullshit either. You can love someone without wanting to fuck them but that's a whole separate topic. Saying nice things, being polite to everyone even complete strangers is imperative to being a gentleman. Don't be selective either. Those guys treating you like shit yesterday? When you see them today smile and say "hi." Show them that you won't bow down to their anger. It takes a lot more strength than you realize which is why it's so important. Those who always fight are cowards, they give in too easily to their hate. As a gentleman you will be called a wimp and a pussy but trust me, you are far stronger than any hateful man could ever hope to be. You have to be, you're the dam that the shit hits as it rolls downhill towards the women below.