With the briefcase empty and the holes in my shoes,
I try to stay friendly for the sugary abuse.
So tell my secretary now to hold all of my calls,
I believe I can hear through these walls.
Oh please save me, save me from myself.
I can't be the only one stuck on the shelf.
You said you'd always fall for the underdog.
(Turin Brakes--Underdog [Save Me] )
Maaaaaaan...... I usually have a good time with my extended family. they're a typical irish-catholic family that loves to eat, drink, and be merry (and we can yell pretty good too
-although that generally doesn't come up during holidays). i get to hear hilarious stories about my mom and her family growing up in Oklahoma. there's always some gentle ribbing going on, but everyone is generally very nice to each other on holidays (wouldn't want to cause a scene, y'know.... 
) or so i thought.
i didn't drink at all this year, which is unusual for me at family gatherings. my social anxiety tends to get better after a glass or two of wine, and everyone else is drinking, so i don't feel weird about getting a bit tipsy. i don't know if maybe i was missing things while i was tipsy or people were especially passive-aggressive this year, but i was not happy with some of my relatives.
a bit of background- boyfriend and i have been dating seriously for a bit over 4 years now. everyone in my family knows him and knows how long we've been together. i don't know if it's because we have 2 weddings and 2 new babies to look forward to in the next year or if people are just more comfortable being smug when their own child is married off, but i got several 'So, how are things going with you and [boyfriend]? (expectant look....quick glance at my right hand...innocent, supportive look)' now, usually this doesn't bother me too much. i'm not expecting a ring any time soon and i'm comfortable with that. so i can brush off little tiny things like that, they're not an issue. but then, during dinner, my aunt was talking about a friend who is "single, 42, and a "bigger guy'", saying that she wants to set him up with someone. an uncle across the table who had been drinking shouts "hey, how 'bout Briscoe!" bam! whack! i had just been through the whole 'innocent and caring relationship questions' routine with him about an hour before. it honestly felt like a slap across the face.
as i said, i'm the black sheep, and i expect a certain amount of friendly debate over the relative merits of piercings, tattoos, and living in sin with one's long term partner. i do not expect to be humiliated in front of a table of family members. i just kind of sat there with my head down and didn't say anything. my mother would never have forgiven me for starting an argument, even if it was warranted. no one defended me. to be fair, i don't know how many others heard, there were a couple conversations going on at the same time. but at least a couple did hear. and they didn't say anything.
i had been mentally preparing myself for hanging out with boyfriend's HS friends today (one of them tends to try to cause trouble and doesn't seem to care too much about hurting people's feelings or being blunt in a mean way). all of that time and effort ended up going towards not crying at the dinner table, on thanksgiving. hooray.
so now, on about 4.5 hours sleep and with no defenses in place, i get to host a second thanksgiving meal for who knows how many people, one of whom i fully expect to make at least one attempt to hurt my feelings before the night is out. yay.
at least my back is feeling marginally better. small favors, y'know?
oh, i saw this and it pleased me, i agree totally with all those picks. esp. paul rudd and jeff goldblum
***EDIT***oh em gee, how could i forget alan rickman? snapey-poo! snape-alicious! okay, i'm done.***EDIT***
***2nd EDIT*** okay, i just looked at the list again, and apparently i forgot, like, everyone on it. AB. Dr. Drew. cranky Tom Colicchio. everyone. *drool* ***2nd EDIT***
updates later.
oh, and i wanted to thank everyone who commented and wished me a happy holiday/quick healing. you guys are too sweet and it was and is very appreciated
I try to stay friendly for the sugary abuse.
So tell my secretary now to hold all of my calls,
I believe I can hear through these walls.
Oh please save me, save me from myself.
I can't be the only one stuck on the shelf.
You said you'd always fall for the underdog.
(Turin Brakes--Underdog [Save Me] )
Maaaaaaan...... I usually have a good time with my extended family. they're a typical irish-catholic family that loves to eat, drink, and be merry (and we can yell pretty good too
-although that generally doesn't come up during holidays). i get to hear hilarious stories about my mom and her family growing up in Oklahoma. there's always some gentle ribbing going on, but everyone is generally very nice to each other on holidays (wouldn't want to cause a scene, y'know.... ) or so i thought.i didn't drink at all this year, which is unusual for me at family gatherings. my social anxiety tends to get better after a glass or two of wine, and everyone else is drinking, so i don't feel weird about getting a bit tipsy. i don't know if maybe i was missing things while i was tipsy or people were especially passive-aggressive this year, but i was not happy with some of my relatives.
a bit of background- boyfriend and i have been dating seriously for a bit over 4 years now. everyone in my family knows him and knows how long we've been together. i don't know if it's because we have 2 weddings and 2 new babies to look forward to in the next year or if people are just more comfortable being smug when their own child is married off, but i got several 'So, how are things going with you and [boyfriend]? (expectant look....quick glance at my right hand...innocent, supportive look)' now, usually this doesn't bother me too much. i'm not expecting a ring any time soon and i'm comfortable with that. so i can brush off little tiny things like that, they're not an issue. but then, during dinner, my aunt was talking about a friend who is "single, 42, and a "bigger guy'", saying that she wants to set him up with someone. an uncle across the table who had been drinking shouts "hey, how 'bout Briscoe!" bam! whack! i had just been through the whole 'innocent and caring relationship questions' routine with him about an hour before. it honestly felt like a slap across the face.
as i said, i'm the black sheep, and i expect a certain amount of friendly debate over the relative merits of piercings, tattoos, and living in sin with one's long term partner. i do not expect to be humiliated in front of a table of family members. i just kind of sat there with my head down and didn't say anything. my mother would never have forgiven me for starting an argument, even if it was warranted. no one defended me. to be fair, i don't know how many others heard, there were a couple conversations going on at the same time. but at least a couple did hear. and they didn't say anything.i had been mentally preparing myself for hanging out with boyfriend's HS friends today (one of them tends to try to cause trouble and doesn't seem to care too much about hurting people's feelings or being blunt in a mean way). all of that time and effort ended up going towards not crying at the dinner table, on thanksgiving. hooray.
so now, on about 4.5 hours sleep and with no defenses in place, i get to host a second thanksgiving meal for who knows how many people, one of whom i fully expect to make at least one attempt to hurt my feelings before the night is out. yay.
at least my back is feeling marginally better. small favors, y'know?
oh, i saw this and it pleased me, i agree totally with all those picks. esp. paul rudd and jeff goldblum
***EDIT***oh em gee, how could i forget alan rickman? snapey-poo! snape-alicious! okay, i'm done.***EDIT***
***2nd EDIT*** okay, i just looked at the list again, and apparently i forgot, like, everyone on it. AB. Dr. Drew. cranky Tom Colicchio. everyone. *drool*
***2nd EDIT***updates later.
oh, and i wanted to thank everyone who commented and wished me a happy holiday/quick healing. you guys are too sweet and it was and is very appreciated
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seriphos:
That was simply obnoxious. I'm sure your uncle was just kidding around as he saw it, but that was awful! Talk about not respecting your relationship.
witchartist:
How are you honey?