This has turned into the most trying two days of my entire life and I decided that not writing it down was killing me. Also I would give anything for the world to read this and understand...
I have a very close friend and she had twins in october. They are the cutest things i'll post some pics of them too. She does nothing but talk about them and does so much for them. here they are:
I found out Tuesday that she woke up five am that morning and Kayden(the baby in both pics above) wasnt breathing. She called 911 and woke up both her mother and the babies father. After the baby was pronounced dead the police arrested both her and every other adult in the house at the time. Her other baby was tooken into protective services. Autopsy came back saying that Kayden was covered in bite marks and his chest cavity was caved in. his cause of death was Asphixiation and blood force trama. I talked to her literally the day before and everything seemed so ok. There saying something in her snapped. My problem is I dont think it was her that did it. She loved her babies so much. She would tell me all the time that they were her only reason for living she completely changed her life around for them to have a better life and I would do anything to make it easier on her. I stuck by her side through love shes my family and i refuse to let her go through this alone. i felt with all my being that she couldnt possibly hurt them. theres new developements out now saying that her and the boyfriend are the main suspects and its broken my heart even more. I have decided guilty or not ill support her. She needs help and I know what she may or may not have done IS unforgivable but somehow i know i will anyways love her and I blame myself. She would call me stressed she was basically on her own she asked for help and I wasnt good enough. I cant abondon her now. I've recently found a way where I can Take the other baby home with me so he will be with someone who loves him and is family. I know alot of people are bashing her and say shes a monster but I just feel in my soul that this was not something done on purpose she just wasnt ready nor prepared and noone helped her including myself. I failed her and because of that theres a life lost and a teenager who will never be the same person. I Now though that those babies deaths were'nt here fault i just cant believe it.
http://vidcache.newsoverwireless.com/wjbk/pmd-2/WJBK-3397449.mp4
To sum it all up though my heart hurts. I cant focus on anything else but what could've been different and how Kayden wont get his first christmas or a birthday. How Cam (his twin) will never remember having a brother and my soul cries. I can barely function since i heard Ive just been watching the news and hoping she calls me when she can.Im sorry that I did such an overload of information but it was eating at me and i needed to get it out. Most my blogs to come will probably be updates from the news and from what our family finds as information comes along. thank you if you read this and sorry if it was more depressing then expected...
I Love You baby Kayden
I have a very close friend and she had twins in october. They are the cutest things i'll post some pics of them too. She does nothing but talk about them and does so much for them. here they are:
I found out Tuesday that she woke up five am that morning and Kayden(the baby in both pics above) wasnt breathing. She called 911 and woke up both her mother and the babies father. After the baby was pronounced dead the police arrested both her and every other adult in the house at the time. Her other baby was tooken into protective services. Autopsy came back saying that Kayden was covered in bite marks and his chest cavity was caved in. his cause of death was Asphixiation and blood force trama. I talked to her literally the day before and everything seemed so ok. There saying something in her snapped. My problem is I dont think it was her that did it. She loved her babies so much. She would tell me all the time that they were her only reason for living she completely changed her life around for them to have a better life and I would do anything to make it easier on her. I stuck by her side through love shes my family and i refuse to let her go through this alone. i felt with all my being that she couldnt possibly hurt them. theres new developements out now saying that her and the boyfriend are the main suspects and its broken my heart even more. I have decided guilty or not ill support her. She needs help and I know what she may or may not have done IS unforgivable but somehow i know i will anyways love her and I blame myself. She would call me stressed she was basically on her own she asked for help and I wasnt good enough. I cant abondon her now. I've recently found a way where I can Take the other baby home with me so he will be with someone who loves him and is family. I know alot of people are bashing her and say shes a monster but I just feel in my soul that this was not something done on purpose she just wasnt ready nor prepared and noone helped her including myself. I failed her and because of that theres a life lost and a teenager who will never be the same person. I Now though that those babies deaths were'nt here fault i just cant believe it.
http://vidcache.newsoverwireless.com/wjbk/pmd-2/WJBK-3397449.mp4
To sum it all up though my heart hurts. I cant focus on anything else but what could've been different and how Kayden wont get his first christmas or a birthday. How Cam (his twin) will never remember having a brother and my soul cries. I can barely function since i heard Ive just been watching the news and hoping she calls me when she can.Im sorry that I did such an overload of information but it was eating at me and i needed to get it out. Most my blogs to come will probably be updates from the news and from what our family finds as information comes along. thank you if you read this and sorry if it was more depressing then expected...
I Love You baby Kayden
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that1guy1204:
that is a shitty situation but dont blame yourself. it wasnt your responsibility to ensure that the kid didnt die. if you feel that was a responsibility for you than your friend should never of had kids to begin with. and my guess is that the dad who seems to have not done much for them got angry and killed one so he should be charged with murder, now your friend may have loved them a lot but i have seen this in past cases of the mom knowing that abuse was going on and doing nothing so she is charged for child endangerment or child abuse. it happened a couple months ago to an Air Force family
idgas:
I am so very very sorry for you and everyone else.