bigblack81

Me: hello
She: hi
Me: saw your SG profile. interesting.
She: who are you on sg?
Me: BigBlack81. Noob but not a scum like most.
She: lol
Me: plus, and this is the part that really reeks, I'm looking for folks in the Tenn, Valley to chill with and mabye a girl to date and your name came up. I decided I might want to speak with you.
Me: I suck.
She: haha. well, i'll talk, but i dont date right now
Me: abstaining?
She: no, i just dont date
Me: why?
She: i dont see any reason to. if i need sex, i'll go out and get if. if i need love, i got friends and family for that. i dont see the point in having a boyfriend
Me: but you don't see the need in one person specifically for sex and love at the same time?
Me: <-- is just curious
She: nope. causes too many conflicts to have just one person for all your needs. it gets too needy
Me: can't argue there.
Me: but still. that brings up so many other issues...
She: like what?
Me: like getting sex in the first place. hell, honestly, I could totally understand what your stance on this is except that I've never been a huge fan of casual sex for no other reason that no one I know can deal with just having a good screw.
Me: how do you get beyond that?
She: i only sleep with guys that understand i only want sex
She: and if they get tto emotional, i drop them
Me: <-- nods
Me: I probably could never do that.
Me: I just love way too much.
Me: it seems like a lot of the girls here feel that way and it's hard for me because I am a proud, undenying romantic.
She: well, there are plenty of girls that like that
She: you just gotta look hard
Me: true.
Me: and most are already taken and most of those are by assholes.
Me: assholes get pussy, nice guys get handbags
She: yup

Now, honestly, I wish I was this pragmatic about sex and love and emotions. I wish I had this girl's perspective on things. I want sex and I want love and I'm not enough of a guy to be able to keep sex and love seperate. I'm very girlish in this respect and I know it and I also know I still suffer from White Horse syndrome.

But sometimes I wonder if this isn't an issue in itself. Why should I seperate sex and love? Does sex mean love or does love mean love only? Could I just get my rocks off and find others to fill the relations void?

I've never liked fuck buddies and I've never been a fan of ultra casual sex but if this is the climate here by most then so be it. I can be sex only. My question is how long would it work out for me to be like that?