I found out last week that the pinhead motherfucker doesn't have a job, and hasn't had one either. And she had too much pride to admit it and has been lying to everyone about him. She called up a mutual friend of ours sobbing that he had been laid off when we both knew that nothing of the sort had happened.
Now she's freaking out because she doesn't think there will be enough money for the baby. So my friend is trying to hook pinhead up with a job at her boyfriend's work. Cocky bastard that he is doesn't deserve any of this, but we have to think about the baby. I'm not supposed to know any of this, mind you.
I asked her if there was anything in particular off her baby registry that she wanted. She told me not to feel like I needed to get her anything (this is in spite of the fact that no one has purchased anything off the registry yet and she is due in two weeks). I felt like responding that I wasn't offering to get her anything, but rather, get her baby some things she might need, but I decided that arguing my point was counterproductive, so I took her at her word that everything was fine in her life. Even though everything wasn't/isn't.
It's really really sad.
Now she's freaking out because she doesn't think there will be enough money for the baby. So my friend is trying to hook pinhead up with a job at her boyfriend's work. Cocky bastard that he is doesn't deserve any of this, but we have to think about the baby. I'm not supposed to know any of this, mind you.
I asked her if there was anything in particular off her baby registry that she wanted. She told me not to feel like I needed to get her anything (this is in spite of the fact that no one has purchased anything off the registry yet and she is due in two weeks). I felt like responding that I wasn't offering to get her anything, but rather, get her baby some things she might need, but I decided that arguing my point was counterproductive, so I took her at her word that everything was fine in her life. Even though everything wasn't/isn't.
It's really really sad.
the weird thing is, when you have a baby, everything else falls into place. you are like a puzzle piece. your body changes and so all the other pieces in your puzzle don't exactly match up. when the baby is born, you are both locked together in a new shape, and all the people around you have to change to fit you or get the fuck out. a lot of people don't fit in your life any more, others change.. .and there is also space for new people.
maybe you will fit in her life just fine. but you really have to stop thinking her life is so fucking sad. it isn't. she is HAVING A BABY. figure out how to be happy about this for her and she will love you forever. trust me. make her life have some JOY and HOPE, make her forget her problems, be excited about the baby, and she might even want to keep you around.