There are times I love being single, I have to admit that. One of the best examples of such thought I can come up with is related to my band, where I'm the only free guy left. Usually after a gig, while we wait for the ok to pack things up and go home, I kill my time by having a few free drinks and chatting with anyone that comes up to say he or she loved the show. When the time comes to leave I feel purged from the show and always carry the memory of a couple of good conversations I didn't expect. At the same time though my dear bandmates don't get to enjoy such situation since every damn time a girl comes up to them their girlfriends go ballistic, a fight ensures and they get home all pissed off. On the other hand though this status of mine put a huge bullseye on me so when we all go out together said girlfriends try to hook me up with some of their friends in the hopes I'll join the club too.
So far this tactic didn't work that much really, I usually didn't care or if I liked the "proposed target" I would pursue just a one night stand. Nothing more, nothing less and it was all good fun. That was untill a couple of weeks ago when a new girl came on the scene and for whatever reason it struck me more than all the others. Don't know why really, she was a bit too clean cut and fashion savvy to be my type but I guess she seemed nice and fun from the brief conversations we had. Combine this with a good setting things up courtesy of my bassist's wife and I thought it would have been cool to ask her out for dinner and whatever, so I called and last night we had a date. The result? Well...a disaster. No, I guess I'm exagerating here...we didn't leave the restaurant screaming at each other or something like that, it was all pretty civilized in the end, but it was quite clear we had only one thing in common and that was our friends, period. Still I feel I could have finished the date with more than a hug and a "see ya on saturday" but right now I'm glad I didn't push for more, friendship is all that should come out of this.
But no matter the disaster this kept me thinking that I guess it's time I try to put some effort in having a relationship that lasts maybe more than a year. After all I'm 26 and I should be a bit more mature on this subject, because one night stands might be fun and all that but really I've been there and done that too many times. I guess I'll see how to deal with this thing too, definitely I won't accept any other suggestions from friends, but I'll most likely pursue more than a hot night next time I hit on a girl.
Still last night I got to have dinner at my favourite restaurant, so it's all good
So far this tactic didn't work that much really, I usually didn't care or if I liked the "proposed target" I would pursue just a one night stand. Nothing more, nothing less and it was all good fun. That was untill a couple of weeks ago when a new girl came on the scene and for whatever reason it struck me more than all the others. Don't know why really, she was a bit too clean cut and fashion savvy to be my type but I guess she seemed nice and fun from the brief conversations we had. Combine this with a good setting things up courtesy of my bassist's wife and I thought it would have been cool to ask her out for dinner and whatever, so I called and last night we had a date. The result? Well...a disaster. No, I guess I'm exagerating here...we didn't leave the restaurant screaming at each other or something like that, it was all pretty civilized in the end, but it was quite clear we had only one thing in common and that was our friends, period. Still I feel I could have finished the date with more than a hug and a "see ya on saturday" but right now I'm glad I didn't push for more, friendship is all that should come out of this.
But no matter the disaster this kept me thinking that I guess it's time I try to put some effort in having a relationship that lasts maybe more than a year. After all I'm 26 and I should be a bit more mature on this subject, because one night stands might be fun and all that but really I've been there and done that too many times. I guess I'll see how to deal with this thing too, definitely I won't accept any other suggestions from friends, but I'll most likely pursue more than a hot night next time I hit on a girl.
Still last night I got to have dinner at my favourite restaurant, so it's all good
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Im glad to be single too!!