becca_____

Okay, so I met this guy several months ago, and the first night we met we made out, which I was doing all over the place at that point, so it wasnt a big deal. At some point in the conversation he said he had a girlfriend, but they had an open relationship, so it didnt seem like a big deal. Over the last few months we would run into each other and say hi, but we didnt spend a lot of time together until the past month or so. Weve hung out a lot more, become pretty decent friends, and hooked up a couple times, which I wasnt that into, but whatever, no big deal. He never mentioned his girlfriend after we started hanging out, so I just assumed they had broken up awhile ago. Then tonight we were at the bar and someone mentioned his girlfriend. I was surprised, but didnt really give it much thought, beyond thinking that it was a little weird that it hadnt come up in conversation at any point. Then at like 2am we have the following conversation via text message.

Him: So do you hate me?
Me: What? Why?
Him: Just askin
Me: I dont think I have any reason to hate you, do I?
Him: No response
Me: Is this about the girlfriend thing?
Him: (an hour later) Kind of

And at first Im seriously confused, and its not until this point that I realize that there was no way he just forgot to mention that he had a girlfriend every time we hung out. He obviously didnt want me to know, and now that I did he was afraid I was pissed. So now I dont even know what to think. The thing is that I realize that was a really douchebaggy thing to do, but still Im honestly not really bothered. Assuming its the same girl, and they do have an open relationship, then he didnt actually cheat on her or lie to me. If I had any romantic feelings towards him Id probably be really upset, but since I dont, it just doesnt bother me, even though I know it was an asshole move. I kind of feel like I should be mad at him on general principle, but I really just dont care. Its a weird feeling. Im not really sure how to handle the whole situation.

Update: I've been thinking about this all morning, and the more I do the more it does bother me. The girlfriend thing doesn't phase me (unless he was lying and he was cheating on her), but the idea that someone I consider a friend was kind of actively trying to screw me over is not really sitting well with me. I've been given enough reasons not to trust guys, I really don't need any more.