baconandeggs

When change is as simple as quitting smoking, quitting the nibbling of nails, or dumping little habits, well, those can be changes for the better anyway. When it comes to bigger changes, that's when the debate sets in....
Honestly, there might be a few very small things that aren't really "habits" that I'd gladly change, but plenty of things that were they to change I may be an altogether different person that I probably wouldn't like myself. Besides, some of those things that feel like they should be changed are just the things that make us love someone as who they are. I've found plenty of people with little annoyances that sometimes I wish they'd let go of... but at the same time if they ever let go of those nuances I think I'd be upset they weren't the same person they used to be anymore. Even the small things define who we are and love is one of those things that prove true acceptance. In other words, if you have to change, then they don't really love you for who you are and could very well dislike you once you let go of a piece of you that defined who they fell in love with to begin with.
In the end, it never was and never will be my decision as to what the best choice is or what changes aren't a big thing compared to which ones make a huge difference. I'm one person and this is how I feel. I stand strong in who I am and what my faults have been, are, and will be. They define me.
If you learn anything from this... take it as the opinion of one man, not as a rule. I can't claim I'd be 100% correct on this. hehe

if it's something that even *i* acknowledge as a negative attribute of my own, then yes. otherwise, no.