In need of opinions!
One of my mates (yes mate, definately not me) decided to move in with his girlfriend. This would not be such a big issue if it was not for the rate which this relationship has been moving in. After 1 date they told each other that they were in love with each other. Something I personally do not belive in at all. Sure there is the initial lust and obsession but I would not call this love, love is something that comes after time together in my head at least. They are now moving in together after just 1 month. Now this could be excused but the issue is that she has 2 kids with 2 different dad's which will be living with them and also moved out of another guys apartment the day before they went on that first date. Everyone that knows her says she is manipulative and calculating. Apperantly the first guy wanted to break up with her and then she pricked one of the condoms and went off the pill getting pregnant to keep him (he was 16 and she was 19 at this point in time). This I've heard from several sources. The other guy had similar issues and she did not tell anyone she was pregnant until the 8th month (she did not gain a lot of weight).
Now every story has 2 sides and everyone deserves a second chance but from hearing from my friend what she has said (her apperantly dumping both guys, not mentioning the string of guys in between or denying having any feeling for them) it makes me slightly worried. Especially since this has been the closest friend that I have had since moving back to Sweden from Australia, now I have not heard from him in a month and he has been acting very (excuse language) cuntish.
What can I say or do in this situation? Shit all obviously...
Just annoyed that I my friend of so many years is gone. What do you guys think of the situation?
One of my mates (yes mate, definately not me) decided to move in with his girlfriend. This would not be such a big issue if it was not for the rate which this relationship has been moving in. After 1 date they told each other that they were in love with each other. Something I personally do not belive in at all. Sure there is the initial lust and obsession but I would not call this love, love is something that comes after time together in my head at least. They are now moving in together after just 1 month. Now this could be excused but the issue is that she has 2 kids with 2 different dad's which will be living with them and also moved out of another guys apartment the day before they went on that first date. Everyone that knows her says she is manipulative and calculating. Apperantly the first guy wanted to break up with her and then she pricked one of the condoms and went off the pill getting pregnant to keep him (he was 16 and she was 19 at this point in time). This I've heard from several sources. The other guy had similar issues and she did not tell anyone she was pregnant until the 8th month (she did not gain a lot of weight).
Now every story has 2 sides and everyone deserves a second chance but from hearing from my friend what she has said (her apperantly dumping both guys, not mentioning the string of guys in between or denying having any feeling for them) it makes me slightly worried. Especially since this has been the closest friend that I have had since moving back to Sweden from Australia, now I have not heard from him in a month and he has been acting very (excuse language) cuntish.
What can I say or do in this situation? Shit all obviously...
Just annoyed that I my friend of so many years is gone. What do you guys think of the situation?
sweetcheeks86:
Thats a hard one saying they love each other after one date is moving way to fast. The info u hear is he said she said kind of thing so u may never know the truth. I would talk to n say I never hear from u we need to hang out n see if he opens up. Just watch what u say bc u don't want to totally lose a friend . You have to let him live n learn pretty much
hooeylewis:
The relationship is moving way too fast. manipulators rarely change at all. If she really pricked the condom to get pregnant then she really deserves no respect. I hope your friend sees what is happening.