Tuesday Feb 11, 2003

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Well I seem to have a dilema, which is ponderous in it's simple form. My ex and I went out for lunch today as it's her birthday and I thought it might be good of me to indulge her for an afternoon. We are really good friends now and share a lot of shit thats just for us. We have been split since august and she has a new beau, who she is having some problems with and asked advice on what to do.
Here's the sticky bit, he doesn't figure out our friendship even though he has ex-girlfriends he hangs out with. So he's a wee bit jealous, for no reason mind you but still, how do I give advice on how shitty or unshitty he's treating her and not worry about our gang think I'm trying to break them up when I'm just looking out for her?
Mayhaps this needs a post.
mei:
hmmm. seems like you'd be in a hard place giving relationship advice to an ex whether or not her boyo was jealous.. but if you're really clear about specifics, i don't think it should be a problem. like it would be bad to say "he treats you badly all the time. and he's not even a very nice guy. why don't you leave him?" but ok to say "remember last week, when he bitched you out about spending too much money even though he spends a lot of money? and how he kind of got angry at you for hanging out with me even though he hangs out with his exs? those things lead me to believe that you guys need to do some serious work on your relationship..." anyway, if i was your friend (i mean in the non-internet realm, i know i'm your friend here...) i'd look it that way...

drama's no fun. bleh.

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