atomicbuzzsaw

I knew a young man who used to date 2-3 women at a time-- he was almost 30 years old then. There was an ego boost element to this- he wasn’t always at great romance. Once he became better, he thought that was what he was supposed to do as a man. Problem is, you never have to go too deep with any one if you have a few around, and can just back away or cut one out of your life. You never really have to face conflict with a person, or your own fears. You can eventually swap them out and rotate in another. There's less intimacy or growth, and when it's done, you're still stuck with yourself, and you're the same. I suppose this behavior is made easier with many interactions being entirely online. Easier with bite sized interactions…

Eventually, this guy settled down some.

I don't regret my bad relationships. I went deep, I saw someone at their worst and they at mine. And I always tried to understand and accommodate, even if they didn't. Being an imperfect being, I believe it’s what redeems me.