Ok, can someone tell me if I sound unreasonable in this situation: My ex-girlfriend, who was raped recently, has turned to me for support. I feel extremely bad for her, and am quite willing to help her. This has included going to the hospital/police station with her, letting her stay at my house so she doesn't have to go home (which is where she was attacked) and just kind of being a shoulder to cry on.
In the few instances I have been gone, however, my roomates have been complaining to her what an inconvenience her presence is for them. They have told her they don't appreciate having the police call here to talk to her, they don't appreciate her using dishes (which she does only after asking me first), and are basically loking for reasons to complain about her.
I have decided this is fuct up and incredibly insensitive: My roomates know what has happened to her, and continue to simply complain about things that don't matter. While I can appreciate their discomfort, and I am not saying they don't have the right to feel this way, I do feel it is completely ignorant of them to essentially make my ex feel even worse than she already does because her rape is an inconcenience for everyone else. I'm kind of upset about it, and I'm just wondering if I'm being insensitive. I mean, is it wrong for me to empathize more with the victim of rape than the people who are being inconvenienced by it?
Sorry I am ranting about this. I have had a bad week. Hopefully, my journal entries will soon return to mundane accounts of my day-to-day activities.
Fuck.
In the few instances I have been gone, however, my roomates have been complaining to her what an inconvenience her presence is for them. They have told her they don't appreciate having the police call here to talk to her, they don't appreciate her using dishes (which she does only after asking me first), and are basically loking for reasons to complain about her.
I have decided this is fuct up and incredibly insensitive: My roomates know what has happened to her, and continue to simply complain about things that don't matter. While I can appreciate their discomfort, and I am not saying they don't have the right to feel this way, I do feel it is completely ignorant of them to essentially make my ex feel even worse than she already does because her rape is an inconcenience for everyone else. I'm kind of upset about it, and I'm just wondering if I'm being insensitive. I mean, is it wrong for me to empathize more with the victim of rape than the people who are being inconvenienced by it?
Sorry I am ranting about this. I have had a bad week. Hopefully, my journal entries will soon return to mundane accounts of my day-to-day activities.
Fuck.
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edited to say: what do you mean my 'thing says different things at different times'?
[Edited on Nov 18, 2004 5:36PM]
I realize you posted that entry a week ago. Hope things are better now.
Aww, someone DID miss me. I feel all fuzzy.