Ok, | would like some advice on women. Yes, for a guy who doesn't get alot of attention from girls, it seems to kinda build up quickly and unexpectedly.
A few weeks ago, I hooked up with this girl at a bar (through mutual friends) and we slept together. it was nice. i've seen her around a bunch of times since then. she's always very flirty with me and says we should hang out more and asks me to call her. the thing is, everytime i call i get her voicemail and she never calls back. naturally, i took this as a do not bother proceeding sign and didn't worry about it. but my friends keep on telling me she asks about me, still wants me to call her, etc. We'll call her amanda.
In the past week or so, i've been talking to this girl i work with. We get along really well, and she's very interested in me. I really like her too. we keep on trying to arrange to go out and do something, but she works constantly, has a kid, and lives kinda far away. so its kinda tough. but she and i are both interested in trying to hang out together. we'll call her ashley.
so I invited ashley to a halloween party tomorrow night. It looks like she's gonna make it, which is great. Thing is, that Amanda will be there as well. according to my friends, it sounds like amanda is basically going to hang out with me. so now i feel like my inviting ashley was a real dickheaded thing to do, even though i don't really feel like its my fault. both girls are really, really great, and I don't want to hurt anybody. I don't want to blow of ashley, because its so tough for us to find time to hang out in the first place. and I don't want to hurt amanda, because I already slept with her and really genuinely like her, and if shes been too busy to call me and shit thats cool.
so whats a guy to do in this situation? I feel like one of those spoiled brats being forced to choose between two good things...fuck, do you remember those kids at school that had both a super nintendo and a sega genesis when you were a kid? Its not as fun to be them as it looks.
A few weeks ago, I hooked up with this girl at a bar (through mutual friends) and we slept together. it was nice. i've seen her around a bunch of times since then. she's always very flirty with me and says we should hang out more and asks me to call her. the thing is, everytime i call i get her voicemail and she never calls back. naturally, i took this as a do not bother proceeding sign and didn't worry about it. but my friends keep on telling me she asks about me, still wants me to call her, etc. We'll call her amanda.
In the past week or so, i've been talking to this girl i work with. We get along really well, and she's very interested in me. I really like her too. we keep on trying to arrange to go out and do something, but she works constantly, has a kid, and lives kinda far away. so its kinda tough. but she and i are both interested in trying to hang out together. we'll call her ashley.
so I invited ashley to a halloween party tomorrow night. It looks like she's gonna make it, which is great. Thing is, that Amanda will be there as well. according to my friends, it sounds like amanda is basically going to hang out with me. so now i feel like my inviting ashley was a real dickheaded thing to do, even though i don't really feel like its my fault. both girls are really, really great, and I don't want to hurt anybody. I don't want to blow of ashley, because its so tough for us to find time to hang out in the first place. and I don't want to hurt amanda, because I already slept with her and really genuinely like her, and if shes been too busy to call me and shit thats cool.
so whats a guy to do in this situation? I feel like one of those spoiled brats being forced to choose between two good things...fuck, do you remember those kids at school that had both a super nintendo and a sega genesis when you were a kid? Its not as fun to be them as it looks.
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notthellama:
the advice i've seen so far is good. treat everyone as friends and don't neglect ashley as she and you've made arrangments to go to the shindig together. Amanda doesn't really have room to get upset it seems. you're not serious with anyone right now it seems so as long as that's clear to all parties i think the party will be fine. 
shesinparties:
if a chick sleeps with you and then is all flirty but won't call you back, she has probably got the same situation going on with other guys too. i don't know what to tell you, i don't think like the average girl (thank god), but i say go with your gut.