***warning*** very big rant ahead. For those of u who could care less abt the closed mindedness of this shitty society, please skip to the questions below.
For those of u who would like to hear a really fucked up, but entirely true story abt the bullshit I have to put up with on a daily basis, plz read on.
Yesterday I met with my district manager again. I toned down my look drastically, but kept my piercings in because it was an informal meeting. When I saw him, I smiled .. reached out my hand for a handshake. He didnt accept it. He stood there and stared at me for 30 seconds, not a word came out of his mouth. He said "u didnt look like that when I hired you". Making light of the insult, I said "well I certainly hope not, Im in my regular lounge clothes!" He didnt laugh.
He goes on to say that my manager thought I was a joke, and that he can only PRAY that the rest of my crew didnt see me that day I came in ... or that they will hopefully not remember me when I come to work there. My jaw dropped. I couldnt believe the rudeness. I told him I understood the policy on piercings and that I would be wearing my retainers, and that I would carefully review the employee handbook and gladly abide by the appearance codes while Im on duty.
He tells me my employees are not going to respect me as a manger if I 'look the way I do', I say that is their own problem and I will deal with any disrespect according to company policies and procedures. He says the way to deal with the disrespect is to NOT COME TO WORK LOOKING THE WAY I DO. I remind him yet again, that this is an informal meeting, and that I will not be wearing my piercings at work. I also tell him that I do not see the point in "lying" abt who I am ... because if I am going to be working with these ppl, they will eventually see me looking the way I normally do on down times or when I come in to pick up my checks. He THEN says that I cannot come anywhere NEAR the restaraunt looking like myself, even if Im not working. I tell him that what I do on my own time is my business. He's pissed.
This continues for abt an hour, and he brings it up 4 more times by the end of our meeting. I felt as though I was being discriminated against, and he tells me that discrimination only applies to religion, race, sexual orientation, or sex.
by the way ... dictionary.com says:
Discrimination, discriminatory:
Marked by or showing bias; discriminatory. categorizing. making distinctions not based on fact
Then he moves on to tell me that, because he couldnt get ahold of me, that my start date has been pushed back another 2 weeks. This SCREWS me from paying my RENT, and worst of all .. this RUINS MY SONS BIRTHDAY, which is in less than 2 weeks. I tell him that I called him 3 times a day, everyday for one week ... which is absolutely the truth. He shakes his head NO, then tells me thats not true. I couldnt believe he just called me a liar! I was being honest. After arguing abt it for 10 minutes back n forth, I tell him "LOOK, I certainly dont want to argue with you sir, but I also cannot just agree with you for the sake of agreeing because I know in my heart that what I am saying is the absolute truth. If you need me to contact my phone company to get proof, Ill see what I can do. But I cant lie in good conscience, and I will continue to stand by my word."
Come to find out, this guy is going to be getting in serious trouble for not having our start dates setup. He had THREE WEEKS to do this, and he had to have it done by last thursday ... he called me on WEDNESDAY, ONLY ONE DAY NOTICE. Now, he's trying to put the blame on ME, saying he "couldnt get ahold of me, and he tried and tried" when I only have 3 messages from him, whereas I called him at least 15 times. This is fucking unbelievable!!! And u know what?? Because his phone number isnt long distance, I dont think I can prove that I made the calls .. and its HIS word against MINE.
He ends the conversation by "reminding me that I am NOT officially hired yet", which was meant as a threat, but its not even true. I AM hired, what an idiot. He's tryin to scre me into NOT talking to his boss abt this.
Im freakin out. My sons bday will be ruined because of this, and whats worse, my rent wont be paid. I better start praying to win the lotto or running into a drug deal gone bad.
q's
~Below is a few photos of how I looked yesterday. PLEASE, for the love of GOD, be honest ... I want to know if what I looked like was excessive. I think that I might have a clouded view of what "acceptable" is, since I tend to wear excessive makeup all the time, so I might not know what 'NORMAL" really is.
(plz dont base your opinions on my profile picture, base them on what YOU believe excessive makeup is.)
~Would you quit your job if your boss tried to make u do something u didnt believe in?
~Do u feel u are ever discriminated against?
~What constitutes as discrimination for you?
Thanks to those of u who were patient enough to read this entire rant, I really appreciate it, immensely .. even if u dont agree with me. I know I can be very difficult at times, and I know I might be in the "wrong" here .. Im awfully stubborn
For those of u who would like to hear a really fucked up, but entirely true story abt the bullshit I have to put up with on a daily basis, plz read on.
Yesterday I met with my district manager again. I toned down my look drastically, but kept my piercings in because it was an informal meeting. When I saw him, I smiled .. reached out my hand for a handshake. He didnt accept it. He stood there and stared at me for 30 seconds, not a word came out of his mouth. He said "u didnt look like that when I hired you". Making light of the insult, I said "well I certainly hope not, Im in my regular lounge clothes!" He didnt laugh.
He goes on to say that my manager thought I was a joke, and that he can only PRAY that the rest of my crew didnt see me that day I came in ... or that they will hopefully not remember me when I come to work there. My jaw dropped. I couldnt believe the rudeness. I told him I understood the policy on piercings and that I would be wearing my retainers, and that I would carefully review the employee handbook and gladly abide by the appearance codes while Im on duty.
He tells me my employees are not going to respect me as a manger if I 'look the way I do', I say that is their own problem and I will deal with any disrespect according to company policies and procedures. He says the way to deal with the disrespect is to NOT COME TO WORK LOOKING THE WAY I DO. I remind him yet again, that this is an informal meeting, and that I will not be wearing my piercings at work. I also tell him that I do not see the point in "lying" abt who I am ... because if I am going to be working with these ppl, they will eventually see me looking the way I normally do on down times or when I come in to pick up my checks. He THEN says that I cannot come anywhere NEAR the restaraunt looking like myself, even if Im not working. I tell him that what I do on my own time is my business. He's pissed.
This continues for abt an hour, and he brings it up 4 more times by the end of our meeting. I felt as though I was being discriminated against, and he tells me that discrimination only applies to religion, race, sexual orientation, or sex.
by the way ... dictionary.com says:
Discrimination, discriminatory:
Marked by or showing bias; discriminatory. categorizing. making distinctions not based on fact
Then he moves on to tell me that, because he couldnt get ahold of me, that my start date has been pushed back another 2 weeks. This SCREWS me from paying my RENT, and worst of all .. this RUINS MY SONS BIRTHDAY, which is in less than 2 weeks. I tell him that I called him 3 times a day, everyday for one week ... which is absolutely the truth. He shakes his head NO, then tells me thats not true. I couldnt believe he just called me a liar! I was being honest. After arguing abt it for 10 minutes back n forth, I tell him "LOOK, I certainly dont want to argue with you sir, but I also cannot just agree with you for the sake of agreeing because I know in my heart that what I am saying is the absolute truth. If you need me to contact my phone company to get proof, Ill see what I can do. But I cant lie in good conscience, and I will continue to stand by my word."
Come to find out, this guy is going to be getting in serious trouble for not having our start dates setup. He had THREE WEEKS to do this, and he had to have it done by last thursday ... he called me on WEDNESDAY, ONLY ONE DAY NOTICE. Now, he's trying to put the blame on ME, saying he "couldnt get ahold of me, and he tried and tried" when I only have 3 messages from him, whereas I called him at least 15 times. This is fucking unbelievable!!! And u know what?? Because his phone number isnt long distance, I dont think I can prove that I made the calls .. and its HIS word against MINE.
He ends the conversation by "reminding me that I am NOT officially hired yet", which was meant as a threat, but its not even true. I AM hired, what an idiot. He's tryin to scre me into NOT talking to his boss abt this.
Im freakin out. My sons bday will be ruined because of this, and whats worse, my rent wont be paid. I better start praying to win the lotto or running into a drug deal gone bad.
q's
~Below is a few photos of how I looked yesterday. PLEASE, for the love of GOD, be honest ... I want to know if what I looked like was excessive. I think that I might have a clouded view of what "acceptable" is, since I tend to wear excessive makeup all the time, so I might not know what 'NORMAL" really is.
(plz dont base your opinions on my profile picture, base them on what YOU believe excessive makeup is.)
~Would you quit your job if your boss tried to make u do something u didnt believe in?
~Do u feel u are ever discriminated against?
~What constitutes as discrimination for you?
Thanks to those of u who were patient enough to read this entire rant, I really appreciate it, immensely .. even if u dont agree with me. I know I can be very difficult at times, and I know I might be in the "wrong" here .. Im awfully stubborn
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