I've been having this feud with my brother, Jeff, the past 2 weeks. He moved in with me, umm mid-Januaryish. He contributes nothing. I'm trying to be his friend all this time, but all my money is going towards feeding him and his daughter's here half the time and i have to watch her cos he sleeps most days. He bartends and gives me like $50 a week... Grr the rest of his money goes to cocaine which i've been his best ally in in that I've never judged him and never said a bad word about it, just have recognized with him that he has a problem, but I never said a bad word to him about it, or anything really.

Until 2 weeks ago.

My sister, Chris, and nephews were over and Jeff's daughter Haylee was here with her mom, Jaimie. The latter of us were starting to watch Casino Royale, my sister was on her way out... but before she left she asked Jeff & Jaimie if she could give Haylee a piece of candy. Jeff said no, and it should have ended there, then my sister asks again because she felt bad because the nephews had some and my niece didn't. He said no again, and once again, it should have ended there. He goes on a 2 minute rant about "you give your kids all the candy you want, that's why they act how they act and can't behave yada yada yada nonstop 2 minutes I swear. However right he is, it pisses me off that every chance he gets to criticizing how she mothers her children he pounces on it. So after she left and me sitting there thinking about it I got pissed off. I said to Jeff & Jaimie, and I'm going to try and word it just like I did back then.. "I respect the fact that you don't want Haylee to have candy all the time, and that's fine, but that doesn't give you the right to criticize and bitch her out for how she raises her kids," because he does it again and again and again til sometimes she's in tears. And from there we started getting into it, J'me took Haylee in another room or out back and big brother and I just went at it.. for like 30 minutes til finally after i used the words irresponsible inconsiderate ungrateful asshole who thinks only about Jeff... It didn't come to blows because crippled or not I'd still hurt him bad and he'd hurt me bad too... We haven't said anything to each other but one day my sister was here and gave a harmless suggestion to clean something up a little bit and he went at her again.

He asked me why i defend Chris as much as I do, and I told him, I said Jeff when YOU fuck up and I have to hear Jaimie tell me the fucked up shit you did and then she tells my sister and i have to hear it again I'm the one who tells them to shut the fuck up about it and defend him just as much as I defend her. But I'm tired of his ass right now, and he'd better find a new place to live, because I'm not buying groceries, i'm hitting a diner every day. I broke the front room TV in the first set-to and took the one from his room to replace it, I'm not helping out paying for his cell anymore, so we'll see how long he can stay without the amenities I've been providing him.

I hate it because it's my brother but he's Forty-fucking-One years old and he needs to grow up.