Violence IS the answer 
. And the question is "What is the best way to deal with a bridesmaid that you would rather be an ex-friend?" Every minute I go back and forth between whether to just kick her out of the wedding and be done with her, for good. The main thing holding me back is that a lot of our friends are very intertwined, and me starting shit w/ her could lose me one more bridesmaid (probably not, but maybe), and my fiance his best man (her boyfriend) and 2-3 groomsmen. Only one of which I would personally count as a big loss, and who probably wouldn't go willingly, but the best man is his direct superior at work.
I just foung out that SHE wants to tell ME off after the wedding (I find that fucking hilarious). According to my other bridesmaid, she wants to tell me "that she doesn't believe in your marriage, and she thinks you are so wrong for what you are doing" and "she thinks your lying to your mom and sister cause all you want is a wedding all about you." No, I haven't told my mom or my sister that I'm bi yet, or that I plan on having an open marriage, but I haven't worked up to that yet. Besides, my mom is totally jaded about marriage in the first place. It's not out of the question for her to be totally down with the fact that I've found a way to make it work for me. I told my bridesmaid before that if she wasn't down w/ what we were doing, she didn't have to be there. I didn't want to make her stand up there for something she didn't believe in. But if my she does try to tell me off, I will fucking bury her
. My relationship is more about love and mutual caring then her's has ever been (ask anyone, and they'll tell you that she and her fiance are together more for money than anything else). She will rue the fucking day she decided to fuck with me. Bridezilla is on the fucking loose. 
When did it become too much to except support from your friends?
. And the question is "What is the best way to deal with a bridesmaid that you would rather be an ex-friend?" Every minute I go back and forth between whether to just kick her out of the wedding and be done with her, for good. The main thing holding me back is that a lot of our friends are very intertwined, and me starting shit w/ her could lose me one more bridesmaid (probably not, but maybe), and my fiance his best man (her boyfriend) and 2-3 groomsmen. Only one of which I would personally count as a big loss, and who probably wouldn't go willingly, but the best man is his direct superior at work.
I just foung out that SHE wants to tell ME off after the wedding (I find that fucking hilarious). According to my other bridesmaid, she wants to tell me "that she doesn't believe in your marriage, and she thinks you are so wrong for what you are doing" and "she thinks your lying to your mom and sister cause all you want is a wedding all about you." No, I haven't told my mom or my sister that I'm bi yet, or that I plan on having an open marriage, but I haven't worked up to that yet. Besides, my mom is totally jaded about marriage in the first place. It's not out of the question for her to be totally down with the fact that I've found a way to make it work for me. I told my bridesmaid before that if she wasn't down w/ what we were doing, she didn't have to be there. I didn't want to make her stand up there for something she didn't believe in. But if my she does try to tell me off, I will fucking bury her
. My relationship is more about love and mutual caring then her's has ever been (ask anyone, and they'll tell you that she and her fiance are together more for money than anything else). She will rue the fucking day she decided to fuck with me. Bridezilla is on the fucking loose.
When did it become too much to except support from your friends?
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oh man. take it from a woman that just got married a year ago i would never put up with that kind of crap!!
this is your day~~you and your guy's~~noone else's. do not let anyone:not her; your mon and sister; your friends ; not anyone spoil this day for you. promise me. it only happens once(hopefully). enjoy it and make sure that it is the ONE day that you can look back on forever with nothing but memories of love and happiness.
please don't let her spoil this for you...i think you guys should elope and have the wedding of your dreams in secret and then have a bullshit ceremony for everyone else and then if there's drama at that one it won't be that big of a deal, ya know.
anyways, good luck on congrats on the soon to be marraige. just make sure it's something you REALLY want to do, well, i'm sure you've thought about it plenty before..but yeah