So I live in Boston and every year for Christmas I go back home to Miami.
Since I was 15 my ex-boyfriend Hanoch would spend xmas with me (he's jewish so it was fun for him). Even though we are broken up now and have been for three years, he still comes with me and spends xmas with my family. He's a good friend of mine and I still love him to death. I really enjoy spending xmas with him, he's become a part of the tradition. I always knew that one day the time would come when it wasn't possible for us to spend xmas together. I just didn't expect it to happen so suddenly.
So this year, my current boyfriend (of two years) is going to be down in Miami over xmas. It just so happens that he got a 10 week job down there that starts the day after xmas. So of course he is expecting to spend xmas with me and my family. I really wasn't ready to give up my once a year moment with Hanoch.
I feel really shitty, both because I now have to tell Hanoch that he can't spend xmas with me and also because I feel like I should be happy to spend xmas with my boy.
ugh. I don't want anymore boyfriends from now on.
what woudl you do?
p.s. they don't get along so both of them being there won't work.
Since I was 15 my ex-boyfriend Hanoch would spend xmas with me (he's jewish so it was fun for him). Even though we are broken up now and have been for three years, he still comes with me and spends xmas with my family. He's a good friend of mine and I still love him to death. I really enjoy spending xmas with him, he's become a part of the tradition. I always knew that one day the time would come when it wasn't possible for us to spend xmas together. I just didn't expect it to happen so suddenly.
So this year, my current boyfriend (of two years) is going to be down in Miami over xmas. It just so happens that he got a 10 week job down there that starts the day after xmas. So of course he is expecting to spend xmas with me and my family. I really wasn't ready to give up my once a year moment with Hanoch.
I feel really shitty, both because I now have to tell Hanoch that he can't spend xmas with me and also because I feel like I should be happy to spend xmas with my boy.
ugh. I don't want anymore boyfriends from now on.
what woudl you do?
p.s. they don't get along so both of them being there won't work.
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fatality:
Hmmm, I think that you should first try talking to them to see if they would be comfortable in one place together. Explain how much it means to you, especially to Hanoch - say if he wants to see you, he should be able to make that sacrifice. If that absolutely doesn't work at all, I would try to see Hanoch earlier or later in the day and let Joe have the actual Christmas celebration with you. I know how much Hanoch means to you, this isn't just somebody's random ex. I hope everything works out!
casualjohnson:
Shitty, got issues w/ my ex (who I'm still cool with) and my present girlfriend. They both can't stand each other as well. Guess the present guy gets priority, I mean, if you're with him, then there's really no other way, is there? X-mas is overrated anyway...just make sure you get some quality hang out time w/ dude before and/or after x-mas, and it should be all gravy...