Zach and I got into a small tiff last night. 
I think they freak me out moreso than him. The whole story? Alright. Well, I was on his facebook a while ago, and I had said something about my "great bunch of parents"...And then I wrote "Yeah, your girlfriend is retarded-I only have 2." Or something along those lines...Well, this other girl before me wrote that she needed his number again because her phone broke or something...If any of you have facebook, you know there's a spot for your phone number on there, and you can see it from someone's "wall". Anyway, Then I said "But apparently I'm not the only one (retarded) because your phone number is right up there. Haha. 
"....Clearly a joke, correct? I thought so...anyway, I get on there the other day. And it says "Aww, your girlfriend thinks I'm retarded. That's cute." A)I don't know if she's just kidding or not. And B) I thought it was pretty obvious that I was. Anyway...So I asked Zach if he thought she was serious or if it was a joke. And he was like "She wasn't serious..." And I asked him how he knew. Then he says "Well, maybe you shouldn't call people you don't know retarded."
I wasn't REALLY calling her stupid. I have no basis for which to judge her intelligence. I don't know her. And that's what makes me so uncomfortable. They apparently talk on the phone, and he's never mentioned her. And there are a few others like that too. I don't care that he has friends that are girls, it's that I don't know them, or even know OF them. It wouldn't be so bad if he'd just casually drop a "Yeah, I talked to my friend, so and so today..." When he's telling me about his day when we get to talk at night. And my joking around was an attempt to maybe get to know this girl. I didn't think she'd take it seriously. Or if she even did. But, if she didn't, then I think she should clarify. And I don't think that I was wrong.
And the worst part is that I had talked to him about this a few nights prior, and he was drunk, and didn't remember me saying anything. And his reaction was totally different. He was like "I'll tell her she's being stupid and that you didn't mean it"...So I had to talk about this twice. Grr. The frustrations of long distance relationships.
The conclusion: I hate secrets. I hate drama queens. I hate the Marines. And I hate missing him. But I love him so damn much.
Am I being stupid?
I think they freak me out moreso than him. The whole story? Alright. Well, I was on his facebook a while ago, and I had said something about my "great bunch of parents"...And then I wrote "Yeah, your girlfriend is retarded-I only have 2." Or something along those lines...Well, this other girl before me wrote that she needed his number again because her phone broke or something...If any of you have facebook, you know there's a spot for your phone number on there, and you can see it from someone's "wall". Anyway, Then I said "But apparently I'm not the only one (retarded) because your phone number is right up there. Haha. "....Clearly a joke, correct? I thought so...anyway, I get on there the other day. And it says "Aww, your girlfriend thinks I'm retarded. That's cute." A)I don't know if she's just kidding or not. And B) I thought it was pretty obvious that I was. Anyway...So I asked Zach if he thought she was serious or if it was a joke. And he was like "She wasn't serious..." And I asked him how he knew. Then he says "Well, maybe you shouldn't call people you don't know retarded."
I wasn't REALLY calling her stupid. I have no basis for which to judge her intelligence. I don't know her. And that's what makes me so uncomfortable. They apparently talk on the phone, and he's never mentioned her. And there are a few others like that too. I don't care that he has friends that are girls, it's that I don't know them, or even know OF them. It wouldn't be so bad if he'd just casually drop a "Yeah, I talked to my friend, so and so today..." When he's telling me about his day when we get to talk at night. And my joking around was an attempt to maybe get to know this girl. I didn't think she'd take it seriously. Or if she even did. But, if she didn't, then I think she should clarify. And I don't think that I was wrong.
And the worst part is that I had talked to him about this a few nights prior, and he was drunk, and didn't remember me saying anything. And his reaction was totally different. He was like "I'll tell her she's being stupid and that you didn't mean it"...So I had to talk about this twice. Grr. The frustrations of long distance relationships.
The conclusion: I hate secrets. I hate drama queens. I hate the Marines. And I hate missing him. But I love him so damn much.
Am I being stupid?
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"Guys are dumb."
however I would also like to point out that the quickest way to resolve this (since as I see it the real issue is that he's talking to girls/people who you don't know that he's talking to, rather than the other thing with the comments etc) is to TALK with him about it. He probably feels uncomfortable bringing it up that he's talking to other people for one reason or another. so telling him that it makes you feel like he feels like he needs to keep secrets from you might be good.
ummmmm dunno if that makes sense...
LDRs are crazy lots of work... if communication isn't as close to 100% open as possible they're even more work... and even less worth it.
Ummmm that probably doesn't make sense either.... k one more try...
You're obviously awesome, and he's obviously awesome, she want to make you jealous by being condescending towards you and undercutting your joke by calling it cute. That doesn't mean that he has any interest in her at all, just that she is insecure and petty.
Ooops that was different....
ummmm Sorry for giving advice