This case involved a female friend of mine whom I was very close to the past few months.
She and I met through one of our college classes and had a lot in common. But she’s always felt as if things, mentally, weren’t stable but regardless of that I didn’t care and we became really good friends. I say the word mentally because as she put it, she seemed to have these really wierd up and down days that never seemed to make sense or for any particular reason. But during most of our free time when we would see each other, it was fine. We would hang out at coffee shops or go see some live shows together. But along the way she developed feelings for me. Which I knew I couldnt reciprocate. But at first she didn’t seem phased by it and felt a sort of respect I had for her.
Skip to about 2 weeks ago... randomly she started not answering my texts are calls. I had assumed either she was busy or having one of those off days I mentioned. But it got to a point where I did see her at college and I’d call her name but she seemed to avoid me or would say “I can’t talk right now.”
One day she calls to meet me and says that we need to talk about somethings she’s been been dealing with. We meet, when drops this huge bomb on my lap with “we can’t be friends anymore.” I just paused and looked shocked and questioning like “why?! Is there something wrong?”
She just stands up and before leaving says “you need to get your head straight and analyze yourself, if you think what you’re doing is normal” and walks off...
I had never been so confused in my life. Seems like in a split second I lost a friend.. maybe was it bc she liked me in a way of more than just friends and I didn’t feel the same way about her. Note that she is/was incredibly attractive and smart, but I think she may have felt like I didn’t think she was relationship material. I mean she knew that I wasn’t ready for a relationship but damn... it’s just really confusing and fucked up...