Hello! Sorry for my all out disappearance. Non-internet life calls. There's been a lot going on in the last month and a half, but I'll just share the highlights. Here's some music to entertain you.
I went home to Minnesota and ended up extending my stay by a couple days because my big brother and the woman he's been with for seven years got married! They had a good friend of ours perform a small ceremony at my mom's house with just a few friends and family there. They're planning a big ceremony for October of 2012, but Mya had to leave for basic and then OCS, so they decided to seal the deal before she left. I'm so very happy for them. I don't even believe in marriage, but I cried.
I quit my second job a couple days ago, and I feel like this is definitely the place that would understand why. I got hired in October looking the way I do now and their rules then were up to two facial piercings, hair a naturally occurring color, and visible tattoos were okay as lone as they were not offensive. Well about two months ago they told us that corporate was changing the rules because guests got an "uneasy" feeling from people people with mods serving them food. So we had until June 12th to remove/cover everything up. I thought about finding another job, but I decided that I would just put up with what I consider to be discrimination based on the way I look, because I liked working there. So I went and got the dermal anchor removed from my cheek on Sunday, and I cried. It was like losing a little shiny piece of who I am. I went to work on Monday morning with the rest of my piercings removed and wearing long sleeves, but was not allowed to serve tables because I forgot to cover the tattoo behind my ear, Then I went in on Tuesday morning with everything covered, and was told that I couldn't even wear a tiny transparent retainer in my lip because it was too obviously a piercing. That was the last straw. I told them I refused to compromise myself and what's important to me for a shitty job, handed them all my stuff, gave a couple hugs, and left.
I guess I've been too optimistic about the way the world views people like those of us on this site. I know we've made progress, but apparently still have a long way to go. The fact is, me wearing a nose ring in no way affects my ability to do my job and do it well. And far more people come in and are interested in my tattoos than seem offended by them (because that's pretty obvious on their faces). It's just bullshit to ask people who are already employed with a company to change the way they look because some percentage of the population still thinks people with tattoos and piercings are scary and dirty. If you agree, I encourage you to call 1-800-FRIDAYS and tell them that their employees should not have to lose their self expression. This is a company that prides itself on its fun, relaxed environment. They always encourage us to "bring our personality to the tables". Well the way I look is a huge part of who I am. Apparently we're supposed to express our individuality while all looking the same. Fuck that. Now I just have to find a new second job.
On a happier note, I've been spending an obscene amount of time with this adorable man. He's pretty amazing.
Let's not go forgetting about my little set in member review. I think it's getting lonely over there. Please go show Spread Wings some love.
And I'll leave you all with a little of this, to apologize again for my lapse around here.
Love.
I went home to Minnesota and ended up extending my stay by a couple days because my big brother and the woman he's been with for seven years got married! They had a good friend of ours perform a small ceremony at my mom's house with just a few friends and family there. They're planning a big ceremony for October of 2012, but Mya had to leave for basic and then OCS, so they decided to seal the deal before she left. I'm so very happy for them. I don't even believe in marriage, but I cried.
I quit my second job a couple days ago, and I feel like this is definitely the place that would understand why. I got hired in October looking the way I do now and their rules then were up to two facial piercings, hair a naturally occurring color, and visible tattoos were okay as lone as they were not offensive. Well about two months ago they told us that corporate was changing the rules because guests got an "uneasy" feeling from people people with mods serving them food. So we had until June 12th to remove/cover everything up. I thought about finding another job, but I decided that I would just put up with what I consider to be discrimination based on the way I look, because I liked working there. So I went and got the dermal anchor removed from my cheek on Sunday, and I cried. It was like losing a little shiny piece of who I am. I went to work on Monday morning with the rest of my piercings removed and wearing long sleeves, but was not allowed to serve tables because I forgot to cover the tattoo behind my ear, Then I went in on Tuesday morning with everything covered, and was told that I couldn't even wear a tiny transparent retainer in my lip because it was too obviously a piercing. That was the last straw. I told them I refused to compromise myself and what's important to me for a shitty job, handed them all my stuff, gave a couple hugs, and left.
I guess I've been too optimistic about the way the world views people like those of us on this site. I know we've made progress, but apparently still have a long way to go. The fact is, me wearing a nose ring in no way affects my ability to do my job and do it well. And far more people come in and are interested in my tattoos than seem offended by them (because that's pretty obvious on their faces). It's just bullshit to ask people who are already employed with a company to change the way they look because some percentage of the population still thinks people with tattoos and piercings are scary and dirty. If you agree, I encourage you to call 1-800-FRIDAYS and tell them that their employees should not have to lose their self expression. This is a company that prides itself on its fun, relaxed environment. They always encourage us to "bring our personality to the tables". Well the way I look is a huge part of who I am. Apparently we're supposed to express our individuality while all looking the same. Fuck that. Now I just have to find a new second job.
On a happier note, I've been spending an obscene amount of time with this adorable man. He's pretty amazing.
Let's not go forgetting about my little set in member review. I think it's getting lonely over there. Please go show Spread Wings some love.
And I'll leave you all with a little of this, to apologize again for my lapse around here.
Love.
pineapplefroot:
Rules against tattoos and piercings are ridiculous about 99% of the time. You summed it up best; they have no bearing on your ability to do your job. Also, you are gorgeous!