flawlesimpurity

Hmmmn...
Mind if I chime in? I dunno, maybe you've come across a post or two of mine, but I'll just assume that you're wondering who the hell I am to be posting in your journal....

#1- Congrats on coming out...to your parents, no less.... I feel thats the toughest one of all... so yaay for you.

#2- Now this is just a visceral gut feeling I get from reading about the hours after telling them... Your mom may be "labeling" in an effort to gain some comfort from saying it outloud....and maybe further adding the "butch" label as a way to grasp the concept that her child is sexual, and wondering what that means to her. I don't really think she was trying to box you into the "label maker" as much as she was trying to become accustom to the reality that her daughter is not straight.

#3- this ones a bit more complicated, and I may be projecting, so just blow me off if it doesn't make sense....
parents, by virtue of their generation have a hard time coping with their kids sexuality in general (they are in their 50-60's noh?)if they learn their children are sexual...they don't want to think about it... but they resign themselves to it. Now add in the gay/lesbian factor. the concept is one they can grasp, eventually they work it out through their heads. Now add that you are sexual with a person because of their being...not their gender and all hell breaks loose.... they cannot grasp the notion that gender is irrelevant.... because of their lifes experience, you are either one or the other...

#3 Give it a bit of time, let mom label you any way she can in order to come to terms with it. over time, she will grow and the two of you can come to a deeper understanding about who you are....no boxes, no labels, just you in all your glory... she will see that you are an amazing spirit who is capable of loving others for their soulfullness.

#4 I think mom...even in her determination to box you in is doing a damn good job. She is at least trying to accept/understand.... let's face it... mom could be labeling you "sick. demented, perverted". It seems to me that she's at least willing to love you no matter what...

#5 It took my parents a long time to deal with my sexuality... I married a man, but have had more female lovers than male, many after being married (we have a poly marriage)so not only did they have to come to terms with my sexuality...but they had to deal with (but still do not accept) that my marriage was not "traditional" as they know it...

Either way...yaay for you!!!
Gracie

hey, hun. I wanted to see how you were doing a few days after coming out...

Are you saying you'd like me better if I was a chick? lol

I scored:
30% Hades
20% Hermes
20% Apollo
10% Dionysus
10% Poseidon
10% Ares

Basically this says I'm a total contradiction. I'm cowardly yet courageous, not especially heroic or dignified yet noble and reasonable, dispassionate yet interested in helping you follow your dreams.

It did comment that this combination is in a guy good for 3somes with two women, something I thought was quite nice.

Evildoc you lie! Bad, Bad Evildoc!

Furrrrrck.... I'm 43% gay (4% higher than the 39% average)... I think it's related to all the locker room questions and having seen men naked there... I dunno... Maybe it's just a military thing, but their are not many shy people in the locker room.

39% purity..... What the fuck!!! What did I do so wrong.... Geez, I remember way back when, when I scored like 70% purity.... HA!

sorry about what's going on? Don't be! I'm stressed but relationships have intricate levels with mixed emotions and she's worth all of my efforts. HeeHee, it's hard for straight men to get it sometimes!

Oh and by the way. She said the "C" word last night. She's my girlfriend and I am hers, no conditons or anything. It was all just confusion on what she thought I wanted. I want her!

Hey!...lol....how are ya?....I also got an email telling me it was pretty so I don't stress over the girl calling me a perv!You got to throw in a dog with the tiddy and kitties! right?....so whats up sexy?

by the way are you a nite owl too?

It is great to look into someone's eyes. I'm glad you have someone like that. Sorry work is not working out for you, so I hope find better, more stable, just as enjoyable work soon. *hug* and stay out of trouble

So the party will probably be the weekend before... but we haven't decided yet...

a new christian rapper??? where where??? i gotta get his cd.....
bests to you

P.S.

I used to live in So Cal.... Coronado, to be exact.... Loved it, can't wait to go back - maybe next November... We'll see.... I think Monterey is next - for a while.

Think you'll be well by then?

Awww... Girls suck sometimes.
What can you do??

I never understood Christian bands.

I liked your Grinch comment.
Good stuff.

Okay -- you're gonna hate me, but I think Big Fish is a video rental at best.

1. I hate movies where terminal illness solves all problems.

2. Father and son didn't speak for several years because the dad refused to tell his son the "boring" real versions of things that happened -- what the hell kind of father would value telling whoppers over his relationship with his son? Dad's job is to do what's necessary to make his son feel unconditionally loved, right?

3. The basic message, a romantic lie is better than the boring truth, sounds like it came from Bush's press secretary when he describes the war in Iraq.

But I'm really a romantic guy at heart ... I tear up whenever I see Sonny pull up to the toll booth in The Godfather. Poor James Caan .... sigh. Sorry, I need a minute to compose myself.

NYE -- I'm gonna go to a local bar and drink! lol!

Fuckin'-a... Hope I look that hot when I get the flu...

Thanks for the compliment.

Big Fish, eh? Never even heard of it, then again, I don't watch tv. I'll have to check it out, but only cuz you recomended it, and if it sux, you'll be held accountable, little girl...... Muahahahahaha (that's my evil Dom laugh - ferocious, aren't I?)

There's the old 70's Linda Rondstadt song ... I'm in pain just knowing I remember the words to Linda Rondstadt songs ...

Love is a rose but you know you don't pick it
It only grows when it's on the vine
Love is a rose but you know you don't pick it
You lose your love when you say the word mine

Personally ... I prefer what Gang of 4 had to say about love ...

Love is like a case of anthrax
And that's one thing you don't want to catch

All that, and you get "bored in your bedroom"?

Shame. Shame. What are you waiting for?

Welcome back

She sounds like a better date than me. With her it's shopping, sex, and emotional support. I'm mostly about belching, farting, and bitching about the Fox network.

Sometime between between Xmas and New Year we gotta get together to grab a beverage and shoot the shit.

tee hee.
you said chonies!

dude, what goth clubs do you go to around here??? some of sgla'ers usually hit up stuff on thursdays, fridays and saturdays. you should come hang out with us and meet all sorts of interesting individuals to include me. we're harmless. there is a public SG Worldwide Holiday Party event going on this coming saturday if you're interested in it. You can bring your lady friend if you like. the info is there or you can just contact me.

have fun in san fran. i was just up there for thanksgiving weekend on a mini roadtrip/getaway. i didn't go to any goth/fetish clubs really, except this sg event that was held for some lusty lady benefit. i did witness lube wrestling.

the fact that you even mention tori amos!!!! ::swoon::

Hey... noticed the post in BDSM and I see LTrain is already stalking you... hehehe. Some to the clubs with us! We (the SGLA people) usually try and hit up a few things each week... Burgundy Room on Wednesdays, Perversion on Thursdays, Friday's is Kittys, and Bar Sinister on Saturdays.

The crowds vary from 2-3 SG people to sometimes like 30. All depends on a number of different things. Sound fun?