deflicted

Aww, I'm so sorry. Breakups suck. And no, it's not weird weird that it just hit you when you saw her myspace status change. The same thing happened to me when I had gone through a breakup in April. Seeing the status change kinda makes the breakup a bit more real; like that other person doesn't give a fuck about you anymore, like you're no longer special. I hope you feel better soon though, but it's definitely going to take time to heal, so take your time. And good luck.

I just don't like the new layout. It's just so tedious to negotiate.

My old roomie was like this. She was depressed, and she drank and did drugs to deal with her pain. She'd had a rough life, and even a blood condition directly related to her being raped as a child... So I understand. I cared about her, we had become friends and she had let me into her life enough to tell me her secrets... she just wouldn't let me help her with her problems.

I eventually gave up. The person you want to help... they have to WANT it. No matter how much YOU want it for them, they have to have the desire to change or be helped. Otherwise its wasted effort.

If this is a girl you love I suggest you sit her down one day she's doing fine and tell her, you're committed and that to you commitment means that you are both open with each other. Tell her you love her and you want her to be happy, but she's got to open up to you. I know I put MY bf through shit, when all he wanted was to be there for me... and it took a bit but I put my trust in him 100% and things are better. Tell your girl that she has to trust you 100% to help her, cause otherwise its not worth it. I know the next thing will be hard, but you tell her your not sure you can be with her (even though it will hurt you) if she doesn't allow you to help.

Thats the best I can do with limited info... Goodluck.

the boondocks is an awesome show!