How are we supposed to know what to look for in another person? What are the useful criteria? Do you want someone who's exactly like you? Or someone who's nothing at all like you? Neither of these seem like good ideas. Of course it's somewhere in between, but what are the boundaries of that?
Should I be trying to meet people who have the same taste in music as me? That would be helpful, because we could go to shows together, talk about music (something that's really important to me) and buy each other CDs. But with that kind of similarity of taste comes a similarity of style. And that's not such a great idea, because then you wind up as some kind of matched set.
Maybe I ought to look for someone who's in the same field as me? So they can better understand the daily frustrations, the tiny battles and victories? Or someone who's station in life impresses me? But perhaps that just enables my jealousy and competitiveness?
I'm over-thinking this a lot, I know. Don't get me wrong, I'm not restricting the people I'm meeting to any bizarre criteria. Interest blooms in so many different and unexpected ways. But I'm not sure how I am supposed to evaluate people anymore. What are the criteria to compare two otherwise eligible guys on? I think I should go on chemistry, but it's such a loose and hard to define thing. And such a fickle one, too. Someone's really fascinating for a few days and then interest begins to wan. Or is that just me? Maybe I'm just too oDd, or to inaccessible or unavailable to really be feeling anything real right now? Maybe I'm confusing simple physical attraction? It's entirely possible that the valves and pipes, the plumbing of my heart is blocked, scared over, unable to input, output or filter in the right way anymore. I worry about that.
Should I be trying to meet people who have the same taste in music as me? That would be helpful, because we could go to shows together, talk about music (something that's really important to me) and buy each other CDs. But with that kind of similarity of taste comes a similarity of style. And that's not such a great idea, because then you wind up as some kind of matched set.
Maybe I ought to look for someone who's in the same field as me? So they can better understand the daily frustrations, the tiny battles and victories? Or someone who's station in life impresses me? But perhaps that just enables my jealousy and competitiveness?
I'm over-thinking this a lot, I know. Don't get me wrong, I'm not restricting the people I'm meeting to any bizarre criteria. Interest blooms in so many different and unexpected ways. But I'm not sure how I am supposed to evaluate people anymore. What are the criteria to compare two otherwise eligible guys on? I think I should go on chemistry, but it's such a loose and hard to define thing. And such a fickle one, too. Someone's really fascinating for a few days and then interest begins to wan. Or is that just me? Maybe I'm just too oDd, or to inaccessible or unavailable to really be feeling anything real right now? Maybe I'm confusing simple physical attraction? It's entirely possible that the valves and pipes, the plumbing of my heart is blocked, scared over, unable to input, output or filter in the right way anymore. I worry about that.