People have become far too petty I think.
I have a friend - well, a couple of friends - who are going through a divorce. I don't understand it, I probably never will, and I am not going to make any judgments on them. Either of them. Whether it seems fair, or whether it's being cruel is not my place to talk about.
However, everyone else seems to think it is their right to speak up about it, to the extent that people have taken sides, and where once was friendship is now acrimony, where once was fellowship there is now rancor. What once was a vast family of people from all walks of life is now a battleground of seething animosity, full of sniping and gossip and mud-slinging and sorrow.
In my mind I feel like the times we live in have something to do with it. The stress of the economy, an ambiguous war with no defined end in sight, crime rampant in major cities across the country with seemingly no control . . . the tension of the times I think has built up and now is leaking into every facet of our lives, and in this case, tearing us apart.
These are people who used to love each other, go out of the way to help each other, supported each other through thick and thin, and now, like the civil war, they are at each others throats, disowning condemning, and looking down upon.
It's sad to see what has become of my family. But I guess time changes all things. Nothing gold can stay.
I have a friend - well, a couple of friends - who are going through a divorce. I don't understand it, I probably never will, and I am not going to make any judgments on them. Either of them. Whether it seems fair, or whether it's being cruel is not my place to talk about.
However, everyone else seems to think it is their right to speak up about it, to the extent that people have taken sides, and where once was friendship is now acrimony, where once was fellowship there is now rancor. What once was a vast family of people from all walks of life is now a battleground of seething animosity, full of sniping and gossip and mud-slinging and sorrow.
In my mind I feel like the times we live in have something to do with it. The stress of the economy, an ambiguous war with no defined end in sight, crime rampant in major cities across the country with seemingly no control . . . the tension of the times I think has built up and now is leaking into every facet of our lives, and in this case, tearing us apart.
These are people who used to love each other, go out of the way to help each other, supported each other through thick and thin, and now, like the civil war, they are at each others throats, disowning condemning, and looking down upon.
It's sad to see what has become of my family. But I guess time changes all things. Nothing gold can stay.
lilli:
I find it disheartening and deeply disturbing that the culture of blame has become so entrenched that humans have begun to forget their humanity. In times of divorce and distress, you would think we could all rise above and just be supportive. To keep our hearts and minds open. But the lust for drama and the need to blame seem to override basic humanity in many people. It is a crying shame.
cynicus:
Too true. Alas . . . . it is a sign of our times. Confucius just shoulda kept quiet . . . .