Advice needed!
So I hooked up with this girl Friday night, real pretty, and amazing in bed... took her to her car Saturday morning, got her number, etc.
Texted her monday and after she finally responded (she lives in the middle of nowhere so reception is bad) we texted back and forth a bit, I asked her what she was doing tomorrow (today) and she said she wasn't sure stuff was real busy and she had no idea really (turns out she is going through a divorce and her grandmother is in the hospital getting heart tests done) So i tell her I was going to see if she wanted to get dinner, she said she wasn't in a real position to make plans so I said, well maybe another time, she said sounds good. I had to go shortly after that.
Anyway, I plan on getting a hold of her Friday to see if she wants to/is able to do anything this weekend. See how that goes.
Now the problem is, I'm well on working on my 5 year mark of being single and I'm a bit bored of it. I'm not looking to be this girls boyfriend, but I'd like to get to know her better. The problem is I've dealt with recently divorced women and they usually suck when it comes to me. (oddly enough right after me they find "the one" they had been looking for) All my friends seem to be telling me to not even bother with this girl. I will because if nothing else I'm sure I can pull some good songs out of it.
Anyway, I'm thinking if she says she can't hang out this weekend of just flat out saying "Look, I've been single for almost five years and I'm looking for someone worth spending my time and effort on. I just want to get to know you better but if you aren't interested, just let me know so I don't waste my time wondering what could be. No offense but I've wasted way too much time and effort on women who were just leading me around and trying to be nice over the past 5 years that I'm not really into that. I'd rather you just be honest. If you want to get to know me better that would be awesome, but if you don't and you were just looking to hook up I'm fine with that too, but I'd like to know so I don't waste my time."
Or something a long those lines.
Good idea? Bad idea?
In other news, I got the garage almost finished so I can move the instruments back down and have my room back. And tomorrow is punk band practice, and Thursday is the races!
So I hooked up with this girl Friday night, real pretty, and amazing in bed... took her to her car Saturday morning, got her number, etc.
Texted her monday and after she finally responded (she lives in the middle of nowhere so reception is bad) we texted back and forth a bit, I asked her what she was doing tomorrow (today) and she said she wasn't sure stuff was real busy and she had no idea really (turns out she is going through a divorce and her grandmother is in the hospital getting heart tests done) So i tell her I was going to see if she wanted to get dinner, she said she wasn't in a real position to make plans so I said, well maybe another time, she said sounds good. I had to go shortly after that.
Anyway, I plan on getting a hold of her Friday to see if she wants to/is able to do anything this weekend. See how that goes.
Now the problem is, I'm well on working on my 5 year mark of being single and I'm a bit bored of it. I'm not looking to be this girls boyfriend, but I'd like to get to know her better. The problem is I've dealt with recently divorced women and they usually suck when it comes to me. (oddly enough right after me they find "the one" they had been looking for) All my friends seem to be telling me to not even bother with this girl. I will because if nothing else I'm sure I can pull some good songs out of it.
Anyway, I'm thinking if she says she can't hang out this weekend of just flat out saying "Look, I've been single for almost five years and I'm looking for someone worth spending my time and effort on. I just want to get to know you better but if you aren't interested, just let me know so I don't waste my time wondering what could be. No offense but I've wasted way too much time and effort on women who were just leading me around and trying to be nice over the past 5 years that I'm not really into that. I'd rather you just be honest. If you want to get to know me better that would be awesome, but if you don't and you were just looking to hook up I'm fine with that too, but I'd like to know so I don't waste my time."
Or something a long those lines.
Good idea? Bad idea?
In other news, I got the garage almost finished so I can move the instruments back down and have my room back. And tomorrow is punk band practice, and Thursday is the races!
I hate to admit this about women...seeing as I am one. But Women like the games. You can't just say.. take me or don't. You have to work at it and if it works out great, if not...move on and try again. I understand that you are getting frusterated and tired of being single and wasteing your time, but..well..that's just how life goes. I think if you are THAT blunt about it, you might just scare her away even if she might have stuck around otherwise.
On the other hand....you could deffinatly drop hints. The type of dates you go on will let her know if you want to be serious or just want to mess around (Dinner, movie, wine, flowers, etc= serious. Bar= not so serious) You could even casually throw into a conversation that you are hoping for a serious relationship. Without directly asking her if she wants to be in a serious relationship with you. That way she can think it over on her own and she wont feel pressured to give you an answer. She probably doesn't even KNOW what she wants, especially if she is going through a divorce.
My opinion.
And I could easily be wrong here too. Do what you think you should do, what you think would be best. Hell..just do whatever you want. Things have a way of working themselves out. Good luck
you're probably thinking...who the fuck are you and why are you giving me advice!?!?
Ya...I'm just bored and I saw "Advice needed!" and figure.. what the hell. lol
I agree with Syl on the type of date thing or sure.