You know that feeling when someone is talking about you REALLY loud when you are totally in earshot. And what they are saying is completely incorrect? Well, my dad is talking to this lady who he met online really loudly on the phone about how I made a mess in the kitchen. Except I wasnt in the kitchen last night. I was in my room feeling really crappy. I am fairly certain that I have bronchitis (aint nobody got time for that). I just think it is really annoying that he does that. He only says I make the messes because he wants me to clean them. He thinks that because I am the girl in the house, its my job to clean up after everyone. Well, sorry but no. I clean the dishes I make and that is it unless I am feeling charitable. That is what it takes to teach my dad to stop being totally sexist. I gotta silently rebel.
This is an ongoing problem in my house. My dad seems to think that I should know how to cook and clean and manage a house. So every time I come to visit, he deliberately pins the job of maid on me. I have told him time and time again that I know how to do these things, I just dont feel like it is my job to clean after everyone. My dad makes huge messes and just leaves them all over the house expecting me to follow him around and clean everything. I love my dad, and he is generally really good to me, but this literally drives me crazy.
He says he wants me to be able to be a good wife one day. But I honestly dont want to be the type of woman who sits home and cleans up after everyone anyway. I am going to college for a reason. I want to be a career woman. I want to be a scientist. I want to travel and do my own thing. And maybe one day, when I have had my fill of globe trotting and animal conservation, I will settle down and get married. But even then, I wont be doing what he wants. I dont want to get married to some push over. I want someone just as strong willed and goal oriented as I am. And I am pretty sure, at this point, that I dont want to marry a man.
I really would like to get married one day, but only if I find that one special lady. I also have to worry about whether or not it will be legal by the time I choose to marry. Right now I live in CT, so if I were to stay here, I would be all set. But I would rather die than stay here after my undergrad degree is finally over. My plan is to go to grad school as far away as possible and kiss this state goodbye. I think that I would really like to go to grad school in California, but I havent gotten that far yet. So, we shall see.
It just bothers me that everyone in my family tries to socialize me to be their image of a perfect little woman. I have never been that way, and I dont want to be. I just want to be myself. No wonder I feel like I am trapped all the time. No one here ever wants me to be who I am. Thank god I dont live with my father and his side of the family. Thank god I have been more dependent than that since I graduated high school. But still, things need to change if I am ever fully going to feel comfortable with myself.
Well, here is to hoping!
This is an ongoing problem in my house. My dad seems to think that I should know how to cook and clean and manage a house. So every time I come to visit, he deliberately pins the job of maid on me. I have told him time and time again that I know how to do these things, I just dont feel like it is my job to clean after everyone. My dad makes huge messes and just leaves them all over the house expecting me to follow him around and clean everything. I love my dad, and he is generally really good to me, but this literally drives me crazy.
He says he wants me to be able to be a good wife one day. But I honestly dont want to be the type of woman who sits home and cleans up after everyone anyway. I am going to college for a reason. I want to be a career woman. I want to be a scientist. I want to travel and do my own thing. And maybe one day, when I have had my fill of globe trotting and animal conservation, I will settle down and get married. But even then, I wont be doing what he wants. I dont want to get married to some push over. I want someone just as strong willed and goal oriented as I am. And I am pretty sure, at this point, that I dont want to marry a man.
I really would like to get married one day, but only if I find that one special lady. I also have to worry about whether or not it will be legal by the time I choose to marry. Right now I live in CT, so if I were to stay here, I would be all set. But I would rather die than stay here after my undergrad degree is finally over. My plan is to go to grad school as far away as possible and kiss this state goodbye. I think that I would really like to go to grad school in California, but I havent gotten that far yet. So, we shall see.
It just bothers me that everyone in my family tries to socialize me to be their image of a perfect little woman. I have never been that way, and I dont want to be. I just want to be myself. No wonder I feel like I am trapped all the time. No one here ever wants me to be who I am. Thank god I dont live with my father and his side of the family. Thank god I have been more dependent than that since I graduated high school. But still, things need to change if I am ever fully going to feel comfortable with myself.
Well, here is to hoping!
I dreamed of being a scientist but ended up being a senior engineer and had a very fortunate career. Was able to retire early at age 55, ten years ago and have never looked back. I wasn't smarter than the next guy, I was just in the right place at the right time. Hopefully you'll have a great career full of your expectations and travel fun.
And you WILL find that perfect partner one day. Trust me she's out there right now dreaming about you!
Btw, great pics .
Yeah my dad can be kind of a butt. I love him but he drives me totally crazy. I have to say that being an independent young woman in my family is kind of a stigma. They are like so old world, trying to breed me to be super wife. Haha. I have like no interest in Amy of that whatsoever.