I think it's a god damn epidemic. So many people out there whining and bitching about their relationships or the lack thereof. "Oh, he doesn't want me" or "She's flirts too much with other dudes". Grow the fuck up people. Here's a few tips from the perspective of the male gender.
There are a few key factors that will quickly make a girl (and guy? I don't know never dated one) undateable. One HUGE one is the way they present themselves while they are dating someone else. I don't mean the way they dress either. First of all, if they come off as slutty (not to be confused as flirtations) then they're undatable. The only thing a guy will want from that is sex. Why? Because he knows damn well she's going to cheat. Also, how she handles a break up. Now, I know some people are going through some shit and this isn't directed at anyone in particular rather to people as a whole but if I step on some toes then ...wear better shoes. If a girl whines about a break up for more then a week or two. She's undatable (at least for a short time). If a girl is obsessed with the break up and is practically pulling on the guys leg begging and pleading for him to come back; very undatable. If she's e-mailing, calling, texting at all hours of the day and night no matter where she is at the time or what she's doing... Extremely undatable. Why? Simple. Any guy in their right mind knows that people like that are mentally unstable. But worse then that he knows that if *(listen close)* he gets in a relationship with someone like this, he knows that at ANY time she could drop his ass like a rock at the mere HINT of being able to get back with said X. NO GUY in their right mind wants to deal with that shit. It don't matter what he says to you to try to convince you otherwise. All he wants to do is fuck and get the hell out ASAP.
Look, I understand the human heart is weak and fragile. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and has every right to experience pain. If however, you're whining and bitching about your so called 'relationship' which was probably founded on the stench of slug fesses for more then a few weeks, then you should probably seek out professional help. Suck it up and move on.
Guys will often come across as shallow thick headed morons that just want to get fucked and for the most part they are. However when it comes to trying to find someone that will complete them, someone they feel they can be themselves with and be comfortable with; do you really think they're going to go for the psycho stalker bitch? No. They see what's going on way before you ever go on your first date. They see what's going on through the way you present yourself socially, mentally, and physically. They see how your friends view you and look at you. Are you 'that' girl that friends drag along because they feel sorry for you? Guys see that. If a guy asks your friend "How's ..?" does your friend answers with a negative tone or an exhausted look on their face while trying to convince him "She's ok"? Did you see how your friends shoulders droped and her exhale was extra long as his/her eyes droped low? Did you see it? That means they're probably tired of putting up with your crap. Why do they? Maybe because they love you and want to see you happy, eventually, maybe, hopefully. You didn't see it? Don't worry, your potential boy friend WILL see it.
Is it too late? No, of course not. Everyone grows, changes, and learns. We are the product of our environments. If we surround ourselves with negative energies all the time, that's what we give off. If someone were to ask me what "I" think they should do if they're feeling heart broken, I would first feed them some bullshit line about how the only way to be truely happy is to get naked in my bed and let me have my way with them. Then afterwards I would just simply tell them the truth. Surround yourself with friends you know that not only care about you, but are uplifting and fun to be around. Find a hobby, do stuff, see stuff experience LIFE. Don't sit there whining all the time. Get off your ass and do something. Exercise, play games, hit the beach. Don't worry about dating, finding that 'right guy' or any of that shit. Just have fun and be free. When the time is right, that 'right person' for you will come along but if you're not mentally ready for him, you're going to miss out.
Are you still reading this? I'm impressed, there is hope for you after all. Now grab your purse and some money bitch because you're taking me out to dinner and you are buying. *evil grin*
There are a few key factors that will quickly make a girl (and guy? I don't know never dated one) undateable. One HUGE one is the way they present themselves while they are dating someone else. I don't mean the way they dress either. First of all, if they come off as slutty (not to be confused as flirtations) then they're undatable. The only thing a guy will want from that is sex. Why? Because he knows damn well she's going to cheat. Also, how she handles a break up. Now, I know some people are going through some shit and this isn't directed at anyone in particular rather to people as a whole but if I step on some toes then ...wear better shoes. If a girl whines about a break up for more then a week or two. She's undatable (at least for a short time). If a girl is obsessed with the break up and is practically pulling on the guys leg begging and pleading for him to come back; very undatable. If she's e-mailing, calling, texting at all hours of the day and night no matter where she is at the time or what she's doing... Extremely undatable. Why? Simple. Any guy in their right mind knows that people like that are mentally unstable. But worse then that he knows that if *(listen close)* he gets in a relationship with someone like this, he knows that at ANY time she could drop his ass like a rock at the mere HINT of being able to get back with said X. NO GUY in their right mind wants to deal with that shit. It don't matter what he says to you to try to convince you otherwise. All he wants to do is fuck and get the hell out ASAP.
Look, I understand the human heart is weak and fragile. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and has every right to experience pain. If however, you're whining and bitching about your so called 'relationship' which was probably founded on the stench of slug fesses for more then a few weeks, then you should probably seek out professional help. Suck it up and move on.
Guys will often come across as shallow thick headed morons that just want to get fucked and for the most part they are. However when it comes to trying to find someone that will complete them, someone they feel they can be themselves with and be comfortable with; do you really think they're going to go for the psycho stalker bitch? No. They see what's going on way before you ever go on your first date. They see what's going on through the way you present yourself socially, mentally, and physically. They see how your friends view you and look at you. Are you 'that' girl that friends drag along because they feel sorry for you? Guys see that. If a guy asks your friend "How's ..?" does your friend answers with a negative tone or an exhausted look on their face while trying to convince him "She's ok"? Did you see how your friends shoulders droped and her exhale was extra long as his/her eyes droped low? Did you see it? That means they're probably tired of putting up with your crap. Why do they? Maybe because they love you and want to see you happy, eventually, maybe, hopefully. You didn't see it? Don't worry, your potential boy friend WILL see it.
Is it too late? No, of course not. Everyone grows, changes, and learns. We are the product of our environments. If we surround ourselves with negative energies all the time, that's what we give off. If someone were to ask me what "I" think they should do if they're feeling heart broken, I would first feed them some bullshit line about how the only way to be truely happy is to get naked in my bed and let me have my way with them. Then afterwards I would just simply tell them the truth. Surround yourself with friends you know that not only care about you, but are uplifting and fun to be around. Find a hobby, do stuff, see stuff experience LIFE. Don't sit there whining all the time. Get off your ass and do something. Exercise, play games, hit the beach. Don't worry about dating, finding that 'right guy' or any of that shit. Just have fun and be free. When the time is right, that 'right person' for you will come along but if you're not mentally ready for him, you're going to miss out.
Are you still reading this? I'm impressed, there is hope for you after all. Now grab your purse and some money bitch because you're taking me out to dinner and you are buying. *evil grin*