A couple days back I recieved an IM from an aquaintance for the first time in a while. She's the granddaughter of a couple that goes to my church. I've hung out with her a couple times when she visited, but never really became particularly close.
So we're catching up and she mentions that she's getting married.
"Oh congrats", I say.
She then explains that she's not very excited about it, she doesn't even like the guy that much.
"then don't marry him, no one's forcing you"
Then she proceeds to tell me that she's marrying this guy because she wants to be supported finacially.
ok, ok...maybe this guy is an asshole and deserves to be conned. I inquire more.
Nope, just turns out that he's some guy who really likes her. Love? I dunno, her proposed to her, so maybe.
so I let her know that I'm a little bothered by her news. I suggest that she might just come clean to this dude.
Nope, that'd be too much trouble
I then try to explain to her about how dishonest she is being, how she obviously hasn't even thought about how the guy might feel if he finds out somehow.
she still doesn't seem to get the concept of his feelings
I then explain to her that if I was the guy and I found out that the person I loved agreed to marry me just because I had money, not only would I be heart broken, but probably very very angry.
she then says "I'm through talking about this"
I bid her salutations in the form of "Well, good luck, I hope you enjoy his money"
"don't worry, I will"
Should I really feel sorry for some guy I don't know? I feel kinda guilty that I have this knowledge but there's nothing I can do with it to make the situation right.
so yeah, if anyone happens to be engaged to a Katy Brantley, you've been warned.
So we're catching up and she mentions that she's getting married.
"Oh congrats", I say.
She then explains that she's not very excited about it, she doesn't even like the guy that much.
"then don't marry him, no one's forcing you"
Then she proceeds to tell me that she's marrying this guy because she wants to be supported finacially.
ok, ok...maybe this guy is an asshole and deserves to be conned. I inquire more.
Nope, just turns out that he's some guy who really likes her. Love? I dunno, her proposed to her, so maybe.
so I let her know that I'm a little bothered by her news. I suggest that she might just come clean to this dude.
Nope, that'd be too much trouble
I then try to explain to her about how dishonest she is being, how she obviously hasn't even thought about how the guy might feel if he finds out somehow.
she still doesn't seem to get the concept of his feelings
I then explain to her that if I was the guy and I found out that the person I loved agreed to marry me just because I had money, not only would I be heart broken, but probably very very angry.
she then says "I'm through talking about this"
I bid her salutations in the form of "Well, good luck, I hope you enjoy his money"
"don't worry, I will"
Should I really feel sorry for some guy I don't know? I feel kinda guilty that I have this knowledge but there's nothing I can do with it to make the situation right.
so yeah, if anyone happens to be engaged to a Katy Brantley, you've been warned.
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that makes me sick. i like how you handled the situation, though. i hope she stews about it for a long time. and then maybe falls down the stairs.
This kind of thing has been going on for as long as the "institution of marriage" has been around.
The part that really sucks is the possibilty that the girl might allow herself to get knocked up. There should be some kind of law against breeding a dysfunctional family. This is a signpost to understanding where fucked up people come from.