So how do you stay friends with someone you've gone out with? We broke up a week ago. We own a house together, and due to the recession, we can't afford to sell our house. We'd still owe money if we sold it now. So we have to at least try and make this work.
It's been ok so far I guess. But today... first time I wanted to tell her to leave me alone. I was talking with one of my friends at work, whom I'm know my Ex isn't terribly found of, and my Ex's name came up. I'm not just going to pretend like nothing happened so I told her. She asked 2 or 3 questions, said she was sorry to hear that, and then said we'll talk about something different.
Now in conversation with my Ex, she asked if I told anyone at work. I told her and she blew up at me. Seriously? We aren't together anymore. If I want to talk about an event in my life, with one of my friends, whom supports me, it's my prerogative. Who say's you get a choice in who I talk to about a very major event in my life. Yes, you were apart of it to, but I would like support on my side, since I've been giving so much to you.
That's not what I said, but that's what went threw my head.
Threw my head... hmmm... lots went threw my head in our relationship. Maybe if I had said what went threw my head instead of just thinking it, maybe our outcome would be a little different.
Miscommunication. That was probably the biggest reason as to why we're no longer together. I think we both thought alot, but never told the other what we were thinking. When we were hurt. What we wanted. Now that we're trying to be friends, maybe we'll be able to start communicating better.
It's been ok so far I guess. But today... first time I wanted to tell her to leave me alone. I was talking with one of my friends at work, whom I'm know my Ex isn't terribly found of, and my Ex's name came up. I'm not just going to pretend like nothing happened so I told her. She asked 2 or 3 questions, said she was sorry to hear that, and then said we'll talk about something different.
Now in conversation with my Ex, she asked if I told anyone at work. I told her and she blew up at me. Seriously? We aren't together anymore. If I want to talk about an event in my life, with one of my friends, whom supports me, it's my prerogative. Who say's you get a choice in who I talk to about a very major event in my life. Yes, you were apart of it to, but I would like support on my side, since I've been giving so much to you.
That's not what I said, but that's what went threw my head.
Threw my head... hmmm... lots went threw my head in our relationship. Maybe if I had said what went threw my head instead of just thinking it, maybe our outcome would be a little different.
Miscommunication. That was probably the biggest reason as to why we're no longer together. I think we both thought alot, but never told the other what we were thinking. When we were hurt. What we wanted. Now that we're trying to be friends, maybe we'll be able to start communicating better.
BUT, I admit, the relationship in the first place was every 40days or less she'd screw around with someone, we'd break up, I'd forgive her, then within 40days rinse and repeat.
Over a decade ago and, I admit, I was an idiot (to say the least) and the whole situation led to a helluva lot of drinking.
Good luck, nonetheless, and hopes for the best, mate.