wow, that sounds like a pretty messed up situation...you do the same thing i do...read stuff or hear stuff and think the worst...if i was in this situation, i think i'd sit on it for awhile and see what happened...of course i'd go batty in the meantime trying to figure out what the hell was up...hahaha...but sometimes sitting back and watching what unfolds is better than jumping into a situation where all of the facts aren't known...