It does suck. I don't think I can give you any advice that would help. I'm from the school if someone's not sure they want to be with me then I don't really want them to be with me....even if I care deeply for them, even if it hurts like hell to accept it. It takes a lot for most (not all) people to say they don't want to be with another. When someone tells me something like that I believe them. I back off and lick my wounds and do whatever I need to in private to get over it and respect that person's decision.
I know that's probably not what you want to hear just now. I am so very sorry you are going through this and believe me I can relate. Break ups are no fun at all.
Bike riding always helps me when I'm feeling a little low. It gets me out, it's healthy, and it's amazing what a curative effect the seeing things and going places has. Do you have something like that you can get into? Something physical to take your mind off of things and to burn some excess negative energy? I'd highly recommended biking. It's cheap and easy on the joints and forces you to get out into the world a little even when your instinct is to hole up.
That is sad to hear. Maybe that which sounds bad over the phone
will be seen in better lite when FTF. If the issues are put on the
table, solutions might be found if the journey together is worth
continuing. If May-Ann has been so burned as to have a major
trust defecit. There might be a great uphill struggle to get back
to a place of joy.
I'm so sorry, especially because you were blindsided. It isn't fair for people to hold their emotions in: not fair to them, not fair to their loved ones. I worry, though, that I hold my own emotions in.
I think the key to a truly effective relationship is for two whole people to come together to share their lives. If you both have emptiness and loneliness, even being together won't make it better. I really am sorry to hear this though. Keep your head up and good things will come along.
I guess that the question is 'How willing is she to
work to make what you 2 have work out."?
What can you change, while still being true to yourself,
that would ease her mind. Is much of this fallout from
the negative place you were in?
It seems a shame that once you are raising yourself up,
a rung of your ladder breaks.
Your still a good guy. don't less this situation define you, just keep moving forward and thinking positive. It will all work out in the end somehow or another.
I hope you two can work it out but try to be honest and realistic about how she feels. A one-sided relationship isn't good for either side. I've always thought the best part of my marriage was that we talk about everything, even the things we're upset about.
Shit man, I'm sorry to hear all that. I have a problem with not revealing all that I'm feeling to my girlfriend, too; I know it bothers her, but it's just hard for me. It's not that I'm bothered by much she does, I just don't talk about myself much. Have there been a lot of things on Mae-Ann's mind for a while that she just hasn't spoken of, or did something happen recently to make her bring this up? I know a thing or two about being with people who have trust issues; before I met my current girlfriend (who still has her own share of them), I was sucked dry by women suffering from them. It's incredibly difficult to deal with on our end.
As for me, yeah, it's too early to hear about the contest results re: my stories. It may be a couple months, which bothers the hell out of me, but that's the life. I posted another story on my blog; I feel good about it, but not as certain as I did my last one.
I'm really sorry to hear this. Being able to share yourself with another person is often a healing salve for the soul. That said, I know that you are a strong person and will get through no matter what.
I'm glad that you liked the pictures. I always loved seeing my bruises and took pictures whenever I could. Unfortunately, I haven't had anything that hard in over a year. Daddy can't stand the idea od my body being hurt so much, so Sir takes it easy with marks. Perhaps someday I will have the chance to sport them again, but Daddy's wishes on that will always come first.
My health is alright. I'm on new meds for my migraines and they seem to help a bit. I still haven't heard back on the last test, so fingers crossed.
Is there any way you can message me with a few more details? I have some thoughts already formed, but I'd like a bit more info (if you don't mind) before forming complete conclusions and commenting.
That maybe so in NY, but the NH State people said
double dipping wasn't allowed. So we work with their rules.
But I would have loved to get somewhat further ahead.
The downside of that would have been having to
look for work rather than get work done around the house.
Did your situation resolve to Joy or Sorrow?
i am sorry about your relationship. i respect you for having one. i feel as if i having nothing inside to bring to a relationship of any kind. you are a person i look to for guidance and evidence that there is light at the end of this tunnel.
I know its different hun. Different ppl and different situation. Just because someone is hurting doesnt mean its the same situation all the time.
I am really sorry for how much you are hurting right now. One thing you can count on is that in the course of your life, you have seen things get better.
wel weve been getting some pretty warm weather lately and all coming weekend. maybe it will eventually make it over to NY. guess who's gonna be the new moderator for the Sox group?
she is the first comment in my blog, Unaffected
she used to be a member and left about a year ago. I offered her a new membership and we reactivated her old profile.
No, i was talking about most people, not just you. Don't feel you've spoiled the broth or whatever the saying is, when afterall, it's the SUICIDE girl's site, hence depressives flock here.
I'm sorry.