If you're leaving this site for your BF (which the previous blog suggests), I would say that you really need to think about this guy. I think that there's a time to join and a time to leave this site for everyone, but it sounds to me like he's trying to make you into his image of what he wants you to be. As a long time counselor, I can tell you this is a no-win situation. You can never fulfill his fantasy completely, as you are not him. You will eventually have to confront him and ask him to love you on your own terms - which is really what love is about - or you will find yourself driven to act out in a way that wrecks the relationship and then think you're to blame. you are not. the male desire to own and shape the female is ancient, primitive, and soul-destroying for both. a few good qualities do NOT compensate for this.
so - leave or stay, but be wary of making any such decision (cutting your hair, dying it, wearing skirts -- whatever) solely because you have to to keep your man.
sometimes we know, but don't want to know.
"I feel like I could be anyone else and he wouldn't notice"
partners should embellish the best in others and influence them not to be something they want, but to simple be the best that they are capable of. Your autonomy is your power to be you, don't let anyone define that for you but compliment it. your fam and friends like him, but you have to love with how he treats you. Good luck, and there is always room to find new people that will compliment you. I thought I found the one and lost it until I found something much better.
Rather than say goodbye I'll just say goodbye for now. Perhaps when you and your personal life are more in harmony you'll consider coming back. At least I hope so. I know how important your guy is to you and this is perhaps a gesture to him to show your desire to stay together. Whatever happens I hope in the end it's what you decide you wanted. It goes without saying that you will be missed and always welcome here. Good luck and happiness.
well good luck in your future ahead! Too bad so many gorgeous ladies leavung the site lately...
