You should tell him in no uncertain terms that you have no designs on him romantically. I've been where he is, and it is painfulto love someone who will only ever think of you as a friend. It sucks even more when you think that there is a REMOTE chance that the person might change her/his mind. You linger and don't move on with your life because you think 'if I wait around long enough, she'll/he'll realize how great I am'. Give him peace of mind and tell him you will only ever love him as a friend.

Hum. Tricksy situation.

You're obviously good friends and it'd be a tragedy to lose someone that you've been that close to. But he's struggling to deal with you being with someone else, and he's unhappy in his own relationship. I agree with being straight up about how you feel to him. And give it time. And let him down gently. It's not easy.

Anyway, on to the good stuff!

Congrats on finishing the exams. Enjoy the summer! Look forward to pictures.

Oh...I have been there. Having only guy-friends definitely complicates things, but they're SO much easier to get along with and they're laid back and, well, I love my best guy-friends.

Tell Tim to quit being a baby. Pouting when you don't get what you want is for 6 year olds and spoiled brats. Who hasn't heard "you're such a great friend! let's just be friends!"? If you really miss him, tell him that, and then lay down the guidelines. Things like "I know it makes you unhappy, but Bobby is my BF, so please try to be supportive." My best friend and I went through this a couple times back and forth when we were much younger than we are now (I'm talking 16 & 17). You can eventually work past it and have your best friend back.

duh. He's in love with you. Supporting another person is great, but if it mentally and emotionally drains you, at some point you have to kind of separate yourself. While it would be nice to be able to just turn emotions off, it's not always possible. He's making space for himself in order to overcome those emotions. He's disappointed that someone he cares about isn't reciprocating the emotion.

While i like the idea that i can be there for all my friends, once my personal sanity comes into play, i have to take a step back. It's rather selfish to expect him to be there for you, irregardless of his own feelings. You have to watch out for number one first. Give him time, give him space and things may change, of course they may not either. All through your life your going to have people coming into it, and leaving it. Things change, people change, situations change that's how life works. Enjoy the people you love while you can, they may be gone tomorrow. Even if they do still stay in your life, as people age, their preferences change and things may not always be the same. Enjoy the things you have right now, right now.

And just so you know i would kill your ex for you. Hell i'll kill Bobby since you said once he dies you're moving to Ohio to be with me, errr, uhm...."for you"