This kind of goes hand-in-hand with my blog from yesterday. A lot of times, in hetero relationships (I'm going to assume that it is mostly the same in homo relationships, but I don't want to talk out of turn if it isn't), it seems like society puts all the pressure on the female to be the sexy one in the relationship. There are clothes (lingerie), classes (stripper/dancing ones), toys, and magazines (Cosmo) that devote tons of space to how to make a woman sexy for her man.
Guys, it also falls on us as well.
Now, I'm not talking about striking the same poses that ladies do (cuz let's be honest, if a guy did some of them we would look ridiculous, not sexy). No, what I'm talking about is trying to be sexy for her.
Why should she have to do all of the work in the relationship? Why is it all up to her to buy all of the clothes, take all of the classes, read all of the articles?
And yes, I've heard this argument before: Dude, I would feel silly if I tried to strip or dance for her.
All I gotta say is, suck it up buttercup. Relationships are a two way street. It shouldn't be up to one party to make all of the effort. Yeah, you may think you look silly or you may feel foolish. But guess what? So do they sometimes. But a lot of them still try, because they know it's what you like.
Time to put the shoe on the other foot, and what's good for the gander should also be good for the goose (and any other sayings or cliches that fit). Take the time to put in a little extra effort. Ask her what she likes, or what she thinks is sexy, and even if it may seem silly or foolish for you, try it. Be GGG (or Good, Giving and Game as Adam Savage says). And for Gods' sake, don't laugh at whatever she says! Give it a shot, and you may be surprised how much closer and better your relationship becomes.