Currently going through the same thing. I just blocked my ex on everything so he can't contact me at all. It's easier that way. In time I'm sure you guys can be friends but the problem right now is that being friends wont work until you're both over each other and ready to move on. I wish you best of luck homie! If you're ever sad and need a chat feel free to DM me ♡
I went through this about 2 years ago. I fell madly in love, she dumped me. I was destroyed! You'll slowly get over her. It took me a couple of months. This may not happen to you, but for me I can't stand to be around, let alone talk to my ex now. Every time she texts me I get mad. I don't know why, but I do. It's a horrible feeling, I know, but you'll get over it I promise.. I haven't been in a relationship since then.. if you need someone to vent too, send me a message. I know I'm a complete stranger but that helps sometimes:)
As someone who's not only been there, but has spent A LOT of his time there; I can certainly relate. The sad fact is you won't be able to get over her until you've spent time away from her. You need the time to help you move on. Only when you give yourself the chance to find someone who does want you can you be just friends with her. Take it from me; there is nothing worse than pining for someone who doesn't feel the same. Open yourself up to other possibilities and you never know what you'll find. I wish you the best of luck; I really do. Just know that there are other women out there and believe it or not it is possible to let the past go and find some happiness.
I spent years in love like you, with people I would never have. Imho you need to move on before you make my choice; hardening your heart till you don't believe in it any more. Now no one can hurt me but I don't know how to undo this. Take the pain, and revel when you are around her, being satisfied with that, or just go away from her. Who knows; mayhaps she'll miss your presence and you'll get together! It's a crappy choice to make but that's the sum of it, take it (the pain) or leave it.
Cut all ties from her, maybe she'll see you in a different light once you're no longer around or you skip years of pain being friends with a chick you're in love with who will never reciprocate
Don't waste your time or feelings on someone who doesn't appreciate you - find someone who does. I'm going through the same thing, and while it's hard to get over her, you will slowly and surely. You deserve better than that, and keep reminding yourself of that. Perhaps one day she will realize what she missed out on.
Tell her how you feel (without being TOO intense) and if she's really not interested, you need to just share in her happiness. This has happened to me too many times... You'll live
First, forget the whole "someday" bullshit. "Someday, she'll realize"--no. Just no. Life's short, you spend it waiting on something like that, you'll die, soon, having accomplished nothing. Sure, you can go out and "find a replacement" as has been recommended (I'm sure, more than once, on and offline) but how would you feel if a chick walked up to you and said "The guy I want to be with doesn't want me, so I guess you'll do" ? Pretty fucking special, no doubt.
Now, for the advice: stop trying to control her future, and worry about your own. You're not doing it on purpose, but the whole "I don't want to lose her" is evidence that you'd do anything to keep her in your life, which is also killing you. Get a hobby. Master a skill. Don't worry about keeping her in your life, because that's not really your choice alone. If she decides to go her own way, you'll need to respect it, and at the same time, continue living your life. So, do anything that doesn't require thinking about a girl who isn't thinking about you. At some point, someone special will come along. If you and this girl are meant to stay friends, it'll happen, but you'd be better off in the long run if you just stopped trying to keep her around. Get distracted with something more important, like perfecting a skill, and have a life.
A little distance may do you good. Not geographically, per se, but maybe time wise. Spend a little less time with her and more time on yourself. Consider if your feelings are for the real her or your idealization of her. This is common. If this is the case, ask yourself what it is about her that you're really attracted to. Is it physical? Is it her interests or her personality. You could attracted to her for personality traits that she may possess that you wish you had. The basic idea is that if you take the time and effort to center yourself, you will see things alot more clearly, and after that, you will find that things come more easily.
I've been through this man. My advice is to let her go. For your own happiness and sanity. I stayed and loved a girl for 2 years that didn't give a fuck about me. If you remain friends with her it'll make it so much harder on you. Focus on yourself. Lift, play music, write, party whatever you enjoy go and do it. Focus on yourself. You're the only you you have and the only one that'll be there 100% of the time. There is no "one" girl. There are millions of girls out there that will make you happy. Never settle. Always get what you deserve nothing less. Always push forward. Always grow. You got this dude!
