I feel your pain. I have to stay pretty clean cut for work; damn corporate life. But when I toss on my leather jacket and skull cap I get avoided by all the straight edge people in the world. I generally find comfort in that anyone that judges me for my appearance is a shallow worthless fuck that isn't worthy of my concern.
I can't sleep so I just wander. Either way I think it can help to be alone and reaffirm to yourself that you are happy with who you are.
"Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul." --Marcus Aurelius
See, the thing is that he didn't even offer...that really put me off. I don't mind splitting, but give me a chance to argue.