Her lack of communication is ending your codependant relationship cold turkey. And not giving the choice to come back which is what you wanted. (Can you hear her saying that to your friend?) Even though you were the one that called it quits originally. You are now going through the bends...the tug of war emotional roller coaster of feelings swaying back and forth and god forbid you go all selfish and focus only on you when this wasn't all about you to begin with. With all hope, one day she will realize that you did this with the best of intentions and that you BOTH will come out this for the better in the long run, together or not. But until then no growth can come out of that until you both grow in your own separate ways. You certainly can't blame her for trying to do so even if her way is different from yours, afterall, she was a different being to begin with. Is there not a part of you that has a fantasy of meeting up with her in the far off distant future....different people...different time...and falling in love again? Are you sure?
Sorry, I guess my post today was a bit too much to read and absorb...
I went on a bit of a rant there, and obviously didn't quite get out what I mean to point out.
Its just the dog.
I'll try to explain it better when I get home.
Work....
I see what you mean, when there are pets involved it's complicated. Especially with new facts developing.
Maybe she will come around when she can, but maybe it's too soon. For her, or for you both. I was just going through the same kind of situation. I knew I would have to take the pets/kids (I say kids because come on, that's pretty much how we feel when we don't have kids). For her to walk away and not even care, yeah BE pissed. Is it possible she's using the lack of care for your dog to hurt you? Would you confuse her care and concern for the dog as care and concern for you and the relationship? Has she always been so all or nothing? Once I get the facts and my head around something I tend to be so myself even if my heart is conflicted which might be a woman thing, I'm not sure.
Luckily there is not a dog involved in my break-up. I too was in a relationship with a woman that had an off switch.......it could be quite cruel at times.......for the last year she has been using the off switch now and again...which was quite painful for me.....I do think about her and unfortunately I have to talk to her to sort out apartment things.......but I hear you
One day you'll be able to thank her for her lack of communication...
It's helping you grow more than you know.