This is so eloquently written and I love that you had a wee journey yourself whilst you were writing! You’re so right too; self-love is sexy, and it’s so important to all of us to practice it wherever we can.
@malaphor wow, thank you!!! I'm my own worst critic and am always writing, re-writing, then completely trashing and starting again (it's a wonder why I never finished my previous attempts hahaha). Anyway, for you to say that really means a lot because it is one of the things I try to achieve - though I never think I can get it 100% perfect. I'm thinking practice in blog homework every week and going back to old topics will really help improve that though. And just being more positive, believing in myself a bit more too, that should work with this whole theme, right?! We'll see, watch this space!
@mermicorn thank you my love! I really tourmented my brain with my thoughts and numerous changes of mind but I now feel rewarded with the journey I took after giving it a fresh attempt! 🧡
Wow you’re very active with the blogs on here aren’t you @phianixx and like I say I’m addicted to good people, caring people and ppl who try to be good to others. That’s why I stay away from ppl who are toxic. That’s why I’m a loner cause it seems I’m always bumping into negative ppl in my personal life, especially in my town. I’m actually improving on the idea that it’s not my problem. I know I’m a good person and a lot of people know that. My family know that, some of my mates know that and everyone on here knows that. So for me self love and caring for others is attractive more than anything!
@kungfury I'm trying at least! Glad it's noticed, I really feel better for it too! Like you say, a toxic person isn't a reflection on you at all so always better to surround yourself with caring, positive people 😊🧡
@phianixx Oh it definitely is, trust me. Your always been supportive to your fellow SG mates and members on here too as well as myself so it’s definitely noticed. And yeah precisely, surround yourself with drama free folk that will always help out and never feel like an outcast. That’s true friendship. If they aren’t doing that back to you, walk away from them. 👍🏻
That’s a hard one...someone is instantly more attractive for me if they have great taste in music (no top 40 or overly commercial stuff), reads books, loves documentaries and generally does not have their face constantly buried in their phone...someone who knows how to live in the moment appreciating those around them...I guess I am a little weird and slightly naive LoL
I don't think loving oneself is necessarily a requirement to be able to truly love another, just so long as your aren't actively hating yourself, are cutting yourself some slack, and at least trying to be a better person. Just the same, I think you're absolutely right in that if a person doesn't at least TRY to find something about themselves to care about, how can they be properly driven to achieve happiness, be confident around others, or be a joy to be around? Loving thyself I think is an important component of finding any kind of true happiness, and while part of me wanted to debate you on it (as a person who often struggles with my own self worth), in the end, I couldn't think of anything wrong with what you said at all. I think you're absolutely correct that loving oneself is at the core of everything we tend to love and find appealing about others.
Really nice blog, and good job on your homework. Iam attracted to girls with confidence. Girls that I can have a good conversation with. And commication is so important in any relationship. If you don't have these two things conversation and commication. You have nothing, and need to move on. @phianixx love your homework blog, and your views on the subject.
@chadiousxvi you're right, I actually wished I explained it a bit better because I'm also not saying broken people can't be loved / aren't desirable! I just mean it makes someone more appealing/attractive if they do love themself :) some really good points there!!
@weedfarmer I agree there too! It's so important to be able to feel comfortable with someone and if you have nothing to talk about, or can't have a decent conversation then it's pointless!
