might be a matter of taking things to the step of "Rehab then you can see the kids." he will probably have court regarding the DWI, you might see if that can be worked into things or something.
the tough part is, well, if the person does not want to change, nothing will change them. I come from a family of alcoholics and know people that are addicts, and I see that. one guy, he's been clean and sober for about 13 to 14 years now....his son is 13 or 14. he had a reason.
as for the ex, until he gets that reason, it'll be tough. maybe his kids will be it, though...you never know!
and talking to people in the field can help....that's for sure!
I know it is hard to find your spine, but find it. I've found mine with my ex and I'm pretty sure she cringes now when she sees my name come up on her cellphone.
You have to put an alcoholic in their place. It has to be done. They've got to realize they have a problem and they have to get help. Even if the courts are needed to intervene, go that route.
Believe me, you'd be doing him a favor. You're NEVER too late to start life over. Might be the best thing that ever happened to him.
I just read your last blog, I am really sorry. You have to put you and your kids first, if you can help your ex thats great too but remember you and your kids come first.
I love you and I hope you are able to enjoy the holidays.
This is the BEST THING you could do for your kids. Naturally it will be hard for them; however, as someone who had a father who did have a drinking problem, I am thankful to this day for my mom standing up to my dad and giving him ultimatum, and am grateful that my father chose my brother, mother and I over the bottle. It's not easy, but really you are going to be helping your children and you ex by telling him he needs to get his shit together.
Good luck lady
might be a matter of taking things to the step of "Rehab then you can see the kids." he will probably have court regarding the DWI, you might see if that can be worked into things or something.
the tough part is, well, if the person does not want to change, nothing will change them. I come from a family of alcoholics and know people that are addicts, and I see that. one guy, he's been clean and sober for about 13 to 14 years now....his son is 13 or 14. he had a reason.
as for the ex, until he gets that reason, it'll be tough. maybe his kids will be it, though...you never know!
and talking to people in the field can help....that's for sure!