Well apparently hitting enter posts the comment so I will try this again. I don't think that we should ever have to give up our identities to be in a "good" relationship. Relationships are equal, or should be at least. Everyone these days finds someone they really like or have an attraction to and tries to make it work. However how often in life can we actually "make" anything work except with ourselves. Unfortunately we have no control over how much someone else will give in a relationship which is why it's imperative to be selective in those we give our hearts to. I've had numerous bad relationships. Several that were abusive to me. Both physically and emotionally. However, all you can do is learn from the situation and try not to make the same mistakes. Over my years of dating I have found certain characteristics that I do not mesh with. When I start dating someone and see these characteristics I run. It sounds bad but I find it better to run, for myself, than to try to change them or try to change me. Being ones true self and someone accepting and loving ones true self is the only way to make a relationship work! Find someone that loves you for all your flaws, not someone that deals with them. Find someone that finds your irritating geusters and find them as your greatest strengths. Find someone that sees your flaws, not as flaws, but rather what makes you unique and different from everyone else. In this you will find a lasting relationship. Now I will put a warning on this... I've been single two years because I've been waiting for "the one" that has all the traits I've just mentioned. However, those I found those traits in, found someone else while we were seeing each other. The last two almost wrote me the exact same message stating just that. I still keep a positive attitude about it but I'm happy with who and where I'm at and for that, I can survive even if I never find my "one". Hopefully this might help at least show a different perspective on your troubles. Good luck and don't be a good luck chuck! Haha
