Comedy and Casual Sex
Had a good night last night. It was a friend's birthday so a bunch of us met up at her apartment for some pre drinking and smoking before the night's main event, a comedy show. We went to a local comedy club and it was awesome. Everyone in the place sort of avoided the front row so when the host/first act came on the first thing he did was comment on the empty first row. He asked that some brave souls volunteer to sit up front so he wouldn't just be staring into blinding stage lights. No one moved. We all knew what was in store for the first row. After brief hesitation our group showed that we rock by moving up to the front row. Sure enought the guy proceed to make fun of us but it was funny as hell. The rest of the show also kicked ass and it was a really fun night.
Today I am hungover.
I've been doing some soul searching lately about my love life. For the last little while I've been happily hooking up with people with no real expectations of long term relationships. Just fun flings. I personally think this is a perfectly acceptable way of doing things so long as all parties can be clear about what they want or expect. This liberated, happy go lucky attitude towards sex & relationships is quite a change from my younger self. I used to feel like I had to hold out for the perfect person to show up and develop a serious, deep relationship with the ultimate goal of finding The One.
So the other day I was talking to a friend of mine that I occasionally have sex with about the above and she said somethings that really made me take an honest(I was gonna say 'hard' but that would've been too easy a joke) look at where I am and what I want. Some of the things she said, particularly about our relationship, really made me feel like an asshole. I know that wasn't her intent but that is how it affected me.
In light of this I've been really thinking about what I want and have come to the conclusion that the casual fling ain't it. So I've decided to stop going that route and follow my own advice about being clear about what I want. I don't want to have someone who I can call up to go to a movie and fuck but not really connect with on a deeper level. I want a partner in crime and in life. Someone to build something serious with. Who stimulates me on multiple levels, not just sexually.
Don't get me wrong here though folks, I am all for casual sex and will be the first to defend it against twisted 'moral' crusaders but I am just realizing that at this point in my life it isn't what I want and I am being a total hypocrite if I keep searching it out knowing that. I'm not gonna rule it out entirely(come on, that would be crazy) but I definitely want to shift the focus of my love life to finding something meaningful.
The End
Had a good night last night. It was a friend's birthday so a bunch of us met up at her apartment for some pre drinking and smoking before the night's main event, a comedy show. We went to a local comedy club and it was awesome. Everyone in the place sort of avoided the front row so when the host/first act came on the first thing he did was comment on the empty first row. He asked that some brave souls volunteer to sit up front so he wouldn't just be staring into blinding stage lights. No one moved. We all knew what was in store for the first row. After brief hesitation our group showed that we rock by moving up to the front row. Sure enought the guy proceed to make fun of us but it was funny as hell. The rest of the show also kicked ass and it was a really fun night.
Today I am hungover.
I've been doing some soul searching lately about my love life. For the last little while I've been happily hooking up with people with no real expectations of long term relationships. Just fun flings. I personally think this is a perfectly acceptable way of doing things so long as all parties can be clear about what they want or expect. This liberated, happy go lucky attitude towards sex & relationships is quite a change from my younger self. I used to feel like I had to hold out for the perfect person to show up and develop a serious, deep relationship with the ultimate goal of finding The One.
So the other day I was talking to a friend of mine that I occasionally have sex with about the above and she said somethings that really made me take an honest(I was gonna say 'hard' but that would've been too easy a joke) look at where I am and what I want. Some of the things she said, particularly about our relationship, really made me feel like an asshole. I know that wasn't her intent but that is how it affected me.
In light of this I've been really thinking about what I want and have come to the conclusion that the casual fling ain't it. So I've decided to stop going that route and follow my own advice about being clear about what I want. I don't want to have someone who I can call up to go to a movie and fuck but not really connect with on a deeper level. I want a partner in crime and in life. Someone to build something serious with. Who stimulates me on multiple levels, not just sexually.
Don't get me wrong here though folks, I am all for casual sex and will be the first to defend it against twisted 'moral' crusaders but I am just realizing that at this point in my life it isn't what I want and I am being a total hypocrite if I keep searching it out knowing that. I'm not gonna rule it out entirely(come on, that would be crazy) but I definitely want to shift the focus of my love life to finding something meaningful.
The End
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aya:
Its a gender politics mass communication course - my project looks at gender portrayal as a product of consumer demand in DOA3.
valcapone:
Wait, I have a roommate who needs to have good passionate sex, as she was saying today... maybe you two can get together?