1) i wouldnt label anyone a homophobe for that, people deserve their own personal space. two of my best friends are gay but they dont grab my ass or even flirt with me, it is just inappropriate and naive. i dont even like it when strange random girls grab my ass though... i dont think i would be compelled to punch anyone however.
2) double standards are the foundation of society! without guilt, how will they ever keep you in line? i also found out awhile ago that female firefighters arent required to lift as much weight as the males, simply because they are built differently. this isnt equality, folks. if you were a "sizable" (you make me go to so many levels of hell with this rant) person, you should damn well hope they can be EQUALLY CAPABLE of getting your ass out of the burning house.
3) two of my lifetime friends (see above) came out of the closet last year. i didnt see it coming either, they were more shy and adversive to my blatant groping (for the sake of humor, i swear!) than any of my straight friends... maybe they were worried they would pop a boner or something. hmm.
wait.. you're not gay?? I totally thought you were gay.
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about the whole BET thing.. yes our great society is filled with fun bits if irony everywhere you look. it's been a hobby of mine for some time to point them out and make fun of them, would you like to play along?
poor Mr. Eel... you're not gay? I would have thought from your bands... You TFF lovin' motherf*%ker.
Um, anyone who doesn't let you punch someone's lights out for grabbing your ass I count as overly sensitive to violent but justified reaction.
Second, we're in this very website as a cultural subgroup yet many of us might look askance at a Christian majority or fraternity/sorority group. I give anyone who's the "minority" of any culture, esp. when they're still fighting for respect in places (no denying), to gather in their own and still say that a similar majority group in the same is racist/elitist/whatever. From that perspective the majority group already has its own club, TV show, or whatever. It's called "daily life", and the majority is perceived (and often rightly so) to run it. Anything else that actively excludes looks racist/sexist/whatever. Why men's clubs seem sexist and women's clubs don't? Because the women are typically counteracting a male dominated society and using their commonality and collectiveness to get what they probably aren't getting otherwise. It gets more extreme elsewhere, when you're talking major religious or language differences, but I get it. I'll live.
And lastly your author is dealing with that fact when and how he feels he has to, and gay as a concept and gay as a family thing, public thing, and daily living thing are not the same. Deciding that you're going to say it and deal with the repercussions, no turning back, that may come about is a serious big, BRAVE step, no matter when you do it. Better to ask why he felt he needed to hide this, when you personally don't think it's bad - I'm not gonna go all X-Men on you, but...
Anyway not meaning to be harsh or anything, just two topics that I feel very strongly about, and have asked the same questions myself at some point - took a lot of pondering to come to these conclusions, so I'm all about talking about them. Course, they're just conclusions - they're not conclusive
You TFF lovin' motherf*%ker.
2) double standards are the foundation of society! without guilt, how will they ever keep you in line? i also found out awhile ago that female firefighters arent required to lift as much weight as the males, simply because they are built differently. this isnt equality, folks. if you were a "sizable" (you make me go to so many levels of hell with this rant) person, you should damn well hope they can be EQUALLY CAPABLE of getting your ass out of the burning house.
3) two of my lifetime friends (see above) came out of the closet last year. i didnt see it coming either, they were more shy and adversive to my blatant groping (for the sake of humor, i swear!) than any of my straight friends... maybe they were worried they would pop a boner or something. hmm.