I don't mind if you want space, I respect that. But your devotion to making this relationship work wasn't comparable to mine from the beginning. Healthy relationships are give-and-take and you always seemed to enjoy taking from me. And the ways in which you took me I suppose could have been a little less rough.
this is not meant to sound short at all, but i truly don't see how i can explain my reasons more clearly than what was illustrated there... i will give a try.
the post that started the thread was not a note to the group to speak up if they're around because group housekeeping would be done, the entire post was outright unpleasant towards anyone who didn't meet up to the standards you'd vaguely referenced for being what/who you wanted to have in the group... not a friendly heads up in nature... as i had said first, prior to further exchanges, that original post was enough to make me uncomfortable there & i was debating leaving at that point.
then, when others pointed out the unpleasantness, you became even moreso. i can't remember the exact phrasing but the manner & phrasing to two of them was along the lines of "oh well, grow/shut the fuck up if you didn't like how/what i said".
it's your group & you're certainly free to handle things how you like, i just found myself uncomfortable there after first reading your initial post opening that thread & then the continuance of it's tone to affirm that i would feel that same discomfort participating later when posting in the group.
basically, after the first post & then more strongly after the ensuing exchanges i referenced, the group no longer feels like a safe, friendly place to discuss for me.
am not sure if that made anything clearer, but i gave it a go.
replying to the comment you left in my journal here: you flirt. but no, really, I think I'd rather the singleness last for a little while... I need some breathing room.
I know. I'm not saying that I'm gonna do it. I was thinking about it but my better judgement prevailed. Mostly I was using the "at least I'm drinking" as a "hey, things could be worse, but they aren't"
but no, really, I think I'd rather the singleness last for a little while... I need some breathing room. 
