The things that you've said on here about how the girl makes you feel, is very honest and sweet. I know it's a fairly big thing to do, but have you told her that? It might be something she could do with hearing

I think with time you'll end up together...trust is a hard thing to find after you've been fucked around like she has, but she knows what kind of guy you are, and nothing like her ex. On a lighter note, you going to see Mastodon? They play Newcastle on Sunday - I'm going whilst Dxx goes and sees "Becoming Jane" at the cinema! See, opposites attract!

if the way you discribe it is how it is, be happy with that; there is nothing greater than a good friend - and she seems to be that; the more you let her lead the more you will gain her trust; if you haven't already got the lot. i made the mistake of impatience and selfishness; and it is the worst mistake i have ever made in my life - a day dosen't go by when i don't beg the universe to have our paths cross again. don't fuck it up; you have everything that really matters as it is!

LW

I'm in a very simalar lady situation, and know how fun it is.

I'm sure things will work themselves out. I'm a huge believer that we are the masters of our own destinies and therefore the creators of our own happiness

Hot Fuzz was brilliant. We went a couple of weeks ago. I was left with this desire to drop kick a few old ladies and run down our main shopping street carrying an automatic weapon. I'm now on the look-out on a nightly basis for cloak wearing nutters carrying anything that can be akin to a weapon. However, I live near Oxford where there are many cloak wearing academics riding bicycles that could be used as tanks and are used as battering rams. Hmmm.........I need to investigate this further.

Sorry you're in limbo.

I've been there.

Try to stay positive. At the very least, you now have a friend. Someone you like, and someone who likes you. It might, with time, lead to more. But even if it doesn't, at least you made the effort and got the courage to ask her out.

That's a pretty big deal to me at least.

Like you, I can never understand why perfectly normal, nice, women seem to get into relationships with complete assholes. It just defies logic. Yet there are so many examples of it.

Do your best to keep up your new friendship with her. Just don't base your efforts solely on the goal of getting into a relationship. Try your best to be happy, or at least content, with the idea of just being friends.

Yeah, his eyes are kind of scary.

Maybe he just drank lots of coffee?

I know what you mean about letting your brain turn to sludge.

I feel like that's what's happened to mine. I honestly worry that I've become dumber through lack of use of my mind.