These are hard questions @megamelz ... finding friends as an adult is difficult.  Getting money is easy... (brace yourself)... bite the bullet and get a fucking job.  Yeah?  xoxoxo

This struggle is real. I'm an ex CG husband or CG ex husband which ever way it goes I have dealt with this, you're inevitably surrounded by personnel of that particular military branch and if you're like me you don't want to be. Civilian friends are an important role I think as a military spouse, I met a few friends through my job and have survived thus far. I think for me I had to make myself go out consistently do my favorite things on my own at first and put out little doses of myself to attract people, after a little bit of time I would find a new person with similar interests. Then BOOM friends

Have you thought about volunteering somewhere? Like a local festival or event. There are awesome people to meet and when the event is does you can choose to see them again or just say no

I speak nothing but the hard truth, these days.  Delete me or block me if you can't handle it.  No bother to me.  The line is loooooooong behind you

Once upon a time, I made friends at work. I started right out of college and most of the people there were like 10-20 years older, but about a year later we hired a bunch of people my age. Then they shut down the site and we scattered to the wind looking for new jobs. I made some new friends at my next job, but it was a hard job to stay at and we all scattered to the wind looking for new jobs. At my next job I made two friends, one of which I was a groomsman in his wedding. But since moving to NC, I have not made any new friends. COVID didn't help, but it was a struggle even before that. I've found online friends to be valuable, but I can't exactly meet up for lunch or run errands together with them.

It is a great way of meeting people and for such a short tie. You make the decision if you want to see them after the volunteering ends

I second the volunteering suggestion. My wife & I moved to MN where we knew nobody. We started volunteering for MNRollergirls & now we have all the friends. We had a kid & had to give it up, but so did many of the skaters & other volunteers. We still hangout with many of them.  I still volunteer at local art events & make new friends there. We also made friends here when SG had a stronger local community focus. Now the community groups are too broad & it's hard to create meet ups.

Kind of a weird one but see if your local college / university has any free classes, you will meet new people and maybe get a boost to your resume to help with the job hunt.

When I was young I was afraid of people. I didn't think they'd eat me or anything, but my fear of their rejecting me caused me to have what I can best describe as social paralysis. I just couldn't make a move one way or the other. Junior high and high school were especially bad. I look back at this time and think to myself, "How silly of that young person, to be so afraid of the rejection of so many people who's opinion of them really didn't matter. I wish they would have just said hi a few more times." I try and carry that thought with me all the time now. I look at myself and think of my future self saying, "Just say fucking hi!" I feel your struggle though! I'm always happy to chat if you want, though I'm not always available, life gets busy. I'll look you up on twitch though and try to be there for some streams! I do feel like twitch and SG were part of the way I stayed sane during the pandemic lock downs and such. I hope you are well! <3